I didn't actually strangle MIL

[Anonymous]

Yesterday.....a miracle! For those on board, share your stories of how you avoided it. For those not on board, move on.....

[Anonymous]

Good for you!
I've been able to avoid it because when we visit her, she and dh have a constant battle over who is in charge of the kitchen and I stay out of their way. (He cooks; I don't.) But it does get on my nerves. She ain't gonna change. I wish he could accept that. But you know what they say about your parents -- They know how to push your buttons cuz they're the ones who installed 'em!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Good for you!
I've been able to avoid it because when we visit her, she and dh have a constant battle over who is in charge of the kitchen and I stay out of their way. (He cooks; I don't.) But it does get on my nerves. She ain't gonna change. I wish he could accept that. But you know what they say about your parents -- They know how to push your buttons cuz they're the ones who installed 'em!

Isn't MIL in charge of the kitchen when it's her house?

[Anonymous]

...because she was across the country and we only chatted through the computer.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:...because she was across the country and we only chatted through the computer.

good deal!

I'm sure in your case absence doesn't make the heart grow fonder.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:...because she was across the country and we only chatted through the computer.

good deal!

I'm sure in your case absence doesn't make the heart grow fonder.

Believe it or not, I actually missed her. I'm a masochist!

[Anonymous]

Because she was realized that if it wasn't for me they would never see their son or grandchildren. She even called me this morning to apologize for something that she didn't do wrong. It's hard to believe that four and a half years ago she told me how much she hated me and why. It's been four years and two days since she started talking to me again.

[Anonymous]

I couldn't avoid mine but luckily she was 1.5 hours late which cut short the time I had to deal with her. I also managed to "have to deal" with the baby which allowed me to excuse myself for extended periods several times.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Good for you!
I've been able to avoid it because when we visit her, she and dh have a constant battle over who is in charge of the kitchen and I stay out of their way. (He cooks; I don't.) But it does get on my nerves. She ain't gonna change. I wish he could accept that. But you know what they say about your parents -- They know how to push your buttons cuz they're the ones who installed 'em!

Isn't MIL in charge of the kitchen when it's her house?

Yes, exactly. She is extremely neurotic about her kitchen (and everything else in her environs) and it drives dh crazy. But it is her kitchen, her house. I think she's agoraphobic, determined to hide it, and copes by living an excessively rigid lifestyle but that's what she wants to do. Best to be reassuring and to accept it rather than try to change it. I actually get along better with her when dh isn't around! But like I said -- she's not my mom so I can see she is a separate person from me.

[Anonymous]

My son got sick so I had to stay home with him while DH was on his own at their house. My son slept most of the time. It was blissful.

[Anonymous]

mine is coming tomorrow. And she is AWFUL. I hope I am not posting tomorrow that I DID strangle her!

[Anonymous]

I'm sorry, I can't relate. I did in fact smother my MIL with a pillow.

[Anonymous]

20:23 - keep us posted!

[Anonymous]

I don't want to get into too many details but the weather wreaked havoc on my plans to make a quick escape from my MIL and I ended up having to spend the whole holiday with her and other relatives of my DH instead of being with my family, as planned.

I wanted to strangle her many times but it's almost over.

Ugh.