Feeling insecure and wanting to end relationship

[Anonymous]

We've been together almost 12 years. We have 2 children. We're not married, just engaged for 2 years. I know, what was I thinking? Honestly though, marriage was never a huge deal for me but everyone else thinks I'm crazy.

Anyways, I'm 7 weeks postpartum and I'm so miserable. I don't know if its PPD but everything is making me mad, sad and jealous. I hate my body and don't want him to ever see it again. I'd rather just be single, so that I don't have to feel so insecure. He brought up his friend's sister and I stupidly asked if he thought she was cute and he said that she isn't ugly but then went on to talk about how chubby she was and how much weight she lost. I don't know why but this pissed me off so much. I'm just feeling ridiculously insecure. Is this normal?

[Anonymous]

I think it is. You are not even 2 months PP and the second time is harder than the first to get back on track. The only way I felt good about my body was losing the weight. I lost it all quickly, but I had to cut calories and exercise more... and yes, I was breastfeeding which helped

[Anonymous]

Op, I mean this kindly. You're super hormonal, stressed and tired..now is not the time to make any decisions.if it helps, I loathed my just a good 30%of the time when I had babies/young toddlers

[Anonymous]

You need to sleep. For like 2 years. After 2 years you will like him again.

OP, a pregnant body is beautiful. A postpartum body is so beautiful and sweet. Okay? Not to be really gross but people talk about milf's for a reason. A mother is the ultimate love, the ultimate security. That's what your partner sees in you.

[Anonymous]

I think normal post partum hormones and lack of sleep can make you like this, but since you mention PPD, please go to a doctor and get screened and maybe followed/therapy for 4-6 months.

You need to speak to your partner about 2 things - the most immediate is sleep. Work out how you can get to a point of feeling well-rested over the next two weeks. DH must do some middle of the night feedings or you must hire someone to help. Then figure out how to prioritize sleep for the long run, and how he is going to contribute to that.

Sleep is a huge contributor to mood and a basic human need as important as food and water. Prioritize it like those two.

You should consider therapy to clarify how you feel about tbe 12 years together and 2 engaged. then you will need help articulating what you want to him and dealing with his response.