sweet talker
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Anonymous
| My niece is a sweet talker, so does my SIL & BIL. They get a lot of attention/helps & free resources (gifts, babysitting, pass down clothing) from IL family. They ask for help & ask for unwanted items, and they take them all. And, I know that they sell some of them on ebay for money. They earn $300k, and have a few houses. Sometimes, I see my niece wearing some really worn out pass down clothing, and she is too young to care about it for now. I, DH & our kids are not sweet talker, and we get nothing. We never ask for anything, and they never offer us anything. Well, we make okay money (about $150k & 1 house) & we are not poor. My children always wear decent & cute clothing because I buy/stock them whenever they are on sale. Is sweet talking a natural born personality or something that you can learn/develop growing up? I see the advantages of being a sweet talker, and I want my children to learn to be one of them. However I personally never like to hang out with sweet talkers because sometimes I feel they are too "fake" with all the sweet talk & kiss ass to the point that I feel uncomfortable & unnatural. I think I am jealous, conflicted, despise, but I agree that being a a sweet talker is always welcomed at the society & it is helpful for any kind of relationship (work, friend, school). |
Anonymous
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I wouldn’t consider this “sweet talking”. I would consider it asking for what you want, and I think it’s a really good skill To have (one that I’m not naturally good at, myself).
It sounds like you and your ILs value different things. While I like my DD to look cute, I also don’t like spending a lot of money on clothes that are going to get ruined anyway. We are maybe a little more “free range” than some families, and I don’t mind DD getting dirty and doing things for herself. I’m not stopping her from doing things because it may ruin her clothes. She’s also growing a mile a minute. |
Anonymous
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If you want your ILs to babysit, just ask them. You don't need to have charisma to do this. Just be yourself and show gratitude.
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