How inconvenient is having four names?

[Anonymous]

Anyone here have 4 names? Or give their child 4 names? How does it work on licenses and other documents? Are you forced to just use 1 middle name or can you put both on everything?

My husband does not want 4 names and thinks it will be a hindrance. FWIW, the first 3 names are all short, none is more than 5 letters. The names are all meaningful names.

[Anonymous]

Not sure about growing up with four names, but I changed my name when I got married, but kept my middle and maiden names. In practicality when filling out forms etc this means that my maiden name is my middle name and my middle name is almost never used. But all four are on my passport, driver's license, etc.

As a child I don't remember ever caring about a middle name.

[Anonymous]

I have four names (two middle names) and I never use my second middle name.

[Anonymous]

I have 4 names. 2 first names and one middle. It's fine and not a big deal. Kind of pointless though.

[Anonymous]

I had 4 and changed to 3 in my 20s.

It was annoying as hell.

[Anonymous]

I should add that the first middle name is a cultural birth name and the second is the same name all our kids have (my last name because I never took DH’s). It has been recommended to keep the birth name in some form (DH doesn’t care about using it) and since we’re not using it as the first name, 4 names is the only option I see.

[Anonymous]

It's annoying. In the Navy they mashed together my 2nd and third name, and then I was forced to list that as an alias on all government forms and when I became a fed. We decided when we had children that they wouldn't have 1 first, 1 middle and 1 last name.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It's annoying. In the Navy they mashed together my 2nd and third name, and then I was forced to list that as an alias on all government forms and when I became a fed. We decided when we had children that they wouldn't have 1 first, 1 middle and 1 last name.

Oops, I meant that our kids WOULD only have 1 first, middle and last name.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I should add that the first middle name is a cultural birth name and the second is the same name all our kids have (my last name because I never took DH’s). It has been recommended to keep the birth name in some form (DH doesn’t care about using it) and since we’re not using it as the first name, 4 names is the only option I see.

What did you do for your other kids? Is it any different for this kid?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I should add that the first middle name is a cultural birth name and the second is the same name all our kids have (my last name because I never took DH’s). It has been recommended to keep the birth name in some form (DH doesn’t care about using it) and since we’re not using it as the first name, 4 names is the only option I see.

What did you do for your other kids? Is it any different for this kid?

Our other kids are not adopted. They have first, middle (my last name), and last name.

[Anonymous]

I have four and never use the second middle except on my taxes. But I like having it, it's no trouble.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I should add that the first middle name is a cultural birth name and the second is the same name all our kids have (my last name because I never took DH’s). It has been recommended to keep the birth name in some form (DH doesn’t care about using it) and since we’re not using it as the first name, 4 names is the only option I see.

Name #1 is “birth” name but don’t plan on calling the kid by that name? I assume it’s your dh’s first name, but he doesn’t care.

Name #2 is your maiden/surname name name shared by all your kids.

Name #3 is what you actually want to call your kid?

Name #4 is your dh and rest of kids surname.



Drop name #1 and name your kid what you want to call him.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I should add that the first middle name is a cultural birth name and the second is the same name all our kids have (my last name because I never took DH’s). It has been recommended to keep the birth name in some form (DH doesn’t care about using it) and since we’re not using it as the first name, 4 names is the only option I see.

Name #1 is “birth” name but don’t plan on calling the kid by that name? I assume it’s your dh’s first name, but he doesn’t care.

Name #2 is your maiden/surname name name shared by all your kids.

Name #3 is what you actually want to call your kid?

Name #4 is your dh and rest of kids surname.



Drop name #1 and name your kid what you want to call him.

Sounds like this child is adopted so was born with a name they want to keep. I’d do 4, OP. I have 4. It’s not a problem. Sometimes I have to drop my first middle of it doesn’t fit but it usually does.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I should add that the first middle name is a cultural birth name and the second is the same name all our kids have (my last name because I never took DH’s). It has been recommended to keep the birth name in some form (DH doesn’t care about using it) and since we’re not using it as the first name, 4 names is the only option I see.

Name #1 is “birth” name but don’t plan on calling the kid by that name? I assume it’s your dh’s first name, but he doesn’t care.

Name #2 is your maiden/surname name name shared by all your kids.

Name #3 is what you actually want to call your kid?

Name #4 is your dh and rest of kids surname.



Drop name #1 and name your kid what you want to call him.

No it would be:
1. New given name
2. Birth name
3. My last name
4. Last name

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I should add that the first middle name is a cultural birth name and the second is the same name all our kids have (my last name because I never took DH’s). It has been recommended to keep the birth name in some form (DH doesn’t care about using it) and since we’re not using it as the first name, 4 names is the only option I see.

Name #1 is “birth” name but don’t plan on calling the kid by that name? I assume it’s your dh’s first name, but he doesn’t care.

Name #2 is your maiden/surname name name shared by all your kids.

Name #3 is what you actually want to call your kid?

Name #4 is your dh and rest of kids surname.



Drop name #1 and name your kid what you want to call him.

No it would be:
1. New given name
2. Birth name
3. My last name
4. Last name

Either give him 4 names or call him by his birth name. You can’t differentiate one child by not giving him the maiden name the others have.