My 5yo DD nearly NEVER wipes herself!!! Any advice???

[Anonymous]

I’m beside myself. I’m so grossed out, and can’t believe she hasn’t gotten a UTI or something!

I’ve tried desperately imploring her to wipe and am getting nowhere.

And, I’m talking neither for #1 or #2!!!

Sorry for the gross topic, but would love some help if anyone has faced this. So much for girls being easier with potty stuff, I’ve never had issues like this with her older brother!

Thanks in advance!

[Anonymous]

OP Again - forgot to add, I know this because she also NEVER flushes, but that’s the least of my worries at this point!

[Anonymous]

Make her wash her own underwear

(I’ve had more issues with my dd than my day too)

[Anonymous]

Than my ds*

[Anonymous]

My niece did this and she smelled horribly. Not wiping urine makes the area tender and then she wouldn’t want to wipe. Finally my mother bought a pack of wipes for her and only her. She made my niece feel special and told her to dab.

She started using the wipes and then told her mother that no one at school told her she smelled.

[Anonymous]

Will she do it if you stand over her / help her? If so, do that.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Will she do it if you stand over her / help her? If so, do that.

Give a praise, sticker/reward chart.

Is this a sensory thing, body awareness thing, or in attention?

If it’s sensory have her practice wipe after a bath.

If it’s a body awareness or inattentiveness, you may need a system of reminders.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Will she do it if you stand over her / help her? If so, do that.

Give a praise, sticker/reward chart.

Is this a sensory thing, body awareness thing, or in attention?

If it’s sensory have her practice wipe after a bath.

If it’s a body awareness or inattentiveness, you may need a system of reminders.

This. Obviously just talking and begging her to do it is not working. You have to get involved in toileting again. Pay attention to when she is using the bathroom. Say, "Sweetie, you need to wipe to stay clean and healthy. Here is how much toilet paper to use." Tear off the amount. Coach her through one or two wipes. If it was poop and she still is not clean, say "Sometimes you need to do it twice." and hand her more paper.

Hopefully you will be able to figure out what the hang up is by watching and talking to her about it.

[Anonymous]

Ours skips that step as well. She was much better when first toilet trained. Doesn’t want to miss a moment. I make her wipe at home if I know she’s going but it’s clear she isn’t super adherent most of the time if she can get away with it (smelly).

I like the sticker chart idea. Borrowing.

[Anonymous]

I told my daughter that she didn’t wipe well, and wiped and showed her the dirty tissue. I acted grossed out and was like “eww! You don’t want to have poop or pee on you as a kindergartner in school, do you?” She looked uo and said no. I said, me neither - then I explained she needed to be clean so she wouldn’t get germs, or it hurt when she went to pee, or so it wouldn’t itch. And that she doesn’t want to be stinky. I tell her, wipe down the left side, wipe down the right side, then go behind and wipe down the backside.

I do think wet wipes help, and also teaching her to wipe herself before getting off the toilet helped.

[Anonymous]

Oh and I showed her how to wipe on the toilet with the 3 wipes until the tissue is clean.

Also, a few times let her walk in on me in the bathroom and didn’t chase her out when I was wiping. Kids always want to copy what you do so I thought it was no big deal to let her watch me go. She asked why I was hairy, and I said, because I’m a grown up, once Day you’ll grow up and be hairy too.

Don’t make it a big deal, make it their choice and a big kid thing.