Did you stay friends with mom friends from when kids were infants and toddlers?
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Anonymous
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I have a preschooler and two kids in elementary. We used to live in Alexandria and made many friends when our kids were young. Most of us have moved (for better schools). Now my youngest just started preschool and I’m just not as eager to befriend the parents this time around.
We are not from the DC area so all the friends we made when we moved here were young families like us. |
Anonymous
Save yourself the drama/grief/wondering and just do your own thing! I had both of my children in that area and tried to be a SAHM and cultivate "friends" and it was short of a disaster. Every "group" I tried to join involved the same sort of politics (who had the nicest house, most money, most talkative, most religious, nicest clothes etc..) ...Okay I did meet one really down to earth mom but with both of us having 2 under two we had our hands full. |
Anonymous
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Just on facebook.
My husband was active duty military so I met most of my "mom friends" through a playgroup on base. We've ALL moved (multiple times!) since then (the "babies" are now 19 years old!) |
Anonymous
| The only moms I'm still friends with from the preschool days are the ones whose kids are in elementary with mine and are still friends. It's too much of a hassle as kids get older to stay in touch with preschool friends. |
Anonymous
| No. There was one mom I did Bc we really clicked, lived near each other, and made som effort. |
Anonymous
| Yes, they are my two best friends. Our kids don't see each other much (different schools) but we are still friends. |
Anonymous
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I have two I have stayed good friends with even though our kids are at different elementary schools. This is my youngest. My oldest, no. I didn’t click with anyone like that.
I think it’s total luck and most times if your kids don’t stay in school together you’ll go separate ways. |
Anonymous
| No. My close friends are from my child's elementary school and her current school. I have also noticed, anecdotally, that people tend to build friendships with their oldest children. We are fairly social and invite people from school or over regularly. If a child is the youngest or close to it in their family, the parents generally speaking won't come to any social event planned outside their established circle. |
Anonymous
| Friendly, but not really friends. |
Anonymous
| Absolutely. I'm still friends with moms I met in babies/toddlers groups and my kid is now a junior in high school. |
Anonymous
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A few! Mostly the ones I really made an effort with.
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Anonymous
| Unfortunately we moved a couple of times since those years, so we’re FB friends. It seems the people I clicked with the most also moved away to places we’ll never live, so FB will be it. It kinda sucks, but is what it is. We are most likely going to stay put here in NoVA this time, and our elementary school has a strong community, so I appreciate the friends I’m making here, but there is something about the people you share the baby days with. It’s almost like a hazing y’all went though together. |
Anonymous
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We've seen a few of the preschool moms over the years, but only sporadically. Most of the kids went to different elementaries so we just didn't run into each other often. We moved between infant daycare and preschool so we're not in touch with our friends from infant daycare.
We're moving on to a different middle school from most of my elementary mom friends and i really hope I can keep up with those semi-friendships. I've really come to enjoy their company. |
Anonymous
| Nope |
Anonymous
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No, not unless the kids went to the same elementary. And even then as the kids get more independent, I see the parents much less.
Most of the friendships never went beyond "mom" friendships where we were friends because our kids were and so activities centered on the kids. It's a jump to being a friendship where you see each other independent of your kids, and they never got there. |