Is Anyone on Dating Apps Actually Looking for a Relationship?

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[Post New]11/11/2019 21:30
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Anonymous
It seems like everyone I meet online is still finalizing their divorce, just got out of some long-term relationship, or is looking to hook up. The people I meet IRL are either looking for a side chick or a mistress. It’s kind of making me hate men and dating. Is there some way to meet people, besides the word of mouth route that doesn’t seem to work post-divorce, to find people who are interested in a relationship?
[Post New]11/11/2019 22:47
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Anonymous
I’ve tried all of the popular dating sites: Match, OKCupid, Bumble, Tinder. There are a lot of the same people on all of them and I’d say the majority I matched with were exactly as you described. I was on and off them for years, thinking a break would help. I’ve given up and I kind of hate men and dating too. It’s not worth the aggravation- I’m too old to deal with the BS.
[Post New]11/12/2019 00:10
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Anonymous


Guy 50s : When I used okc and bumble i had the impression they were quite a few women who were on it for a free dinner or a dopamine ‘hit’. So each has there own downsides to finding an LTR. Keep in mind many relationships start off as one night stands.
[Post New]11/12/2019 00:25
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Anonymous
Of course some of are ... how do you think there are so many marriages coming out of online dating? You just have to be patient and know how to weed people out.
[Post New]11/12/2019 01:10
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Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:Of course some of are ... how do you think there are so many marriages coming out of online dating? You just have to be patient and know how to weed people out.


What are your tips for weeding people out?
[Post New]11/12/2019 02:39
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Anonymous
I feel the same way., OP. I think OLD has really come to it's end. It might be more relevant for younger people but not for the older crowd. It's not about weeding people out, it gives women and men a false sense that they can find Ms. Perfect if they keep swiping.
[Post New]11/12/2019 04:38
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Anonymous
Disagree. I've been divorced for about 4 years and have found my biggest problem is that no one wants to just date without a purpose. That is, I'm a single mom and would love to find a single dad who is down for a relationship where we spend our free time together but have no intention of combining our lives whole our kids are still at home. Exclusive, companionship, etc. But no need for marriage. Most men seem to either want just a ONS or they want to get married tomorrow. I'm 42. Btw.
[Post New]11/12/2019 04:41
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Anonymous
I’ve no issues with online dating and have primarily met women looking for relationships since I am up front that it is what I am seeking.

-45yo divorced man
[Post New]11/12/2019 05:17
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Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:I’ve no issues with online dating and have primarily met women looking for relationships since I am up front that it is what I am seeking.

-45yo divorced man


Woman here. Same - I was very upfront and am now in an LTR. But women who want an LTR and don’t want to wind up casually sleeping with a lot of guys while looking to find an LTR need to be very careful. Lots of guys on apps are looking to casually date and sleep around. Wait to have sex with a guy and have a talk about goals and exclusivity before sex.
[Post New]11/12/2019 06:12
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Anonymous
It’s kind of making me hate men and dating


Because men aren't allowed to want what they want, only what you want.
[Post New]11/12/2019 06:13
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Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:Disagree. I've been divorced for about 4 years and have found my biggest problem is that no one wants to just date without a purpose. That is, I'm a single mom and would love to find a single dad who is down for a relationship where we spend our free time together but have no intention of combining our lives whole our kids are still at home. Exclusive, companionship, etc. But no need for marriage. Most men seem to either want just a ONS or they want to get married tomorrow. I'm 42. Btw.


I'm a divorced dad and that's exactly what I'm after. We're out there, keep trying!
[Post New]11/12/2019 06:43
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Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:Disagree. I've been divorced for about 4 years and have found my biggest problem is that no one wants to just date without a purpose. That is, I'm a single mom and would love to find a single dad who is down for a relationship where we spend our free time together but have no intention of combining our lives whole our kids are still at home. Exclusive, companionship, etc. But no need for marriage. Most men seem to either want just a ONS or they want to get married tomorrow. I'm 42. Btw.


Exactly what I want. mid 40's man.
[Post New]11/12/2019 06:59
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Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:
It’s kind of making me hate men and dating


Because men aren't allowed to want what they want, only what you want.


Of course. Exactly! Finally, somebody who gets me!!
[Post New]11/12/2019 07:02
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Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I’ve no issues with online dating and have primarily met women looking for relationships since I am up front that it is what I am seeking.

-45yo divorced man


Woman here. Same - I was very upfront and am now in an LTR. But women who want an LTR and don’t want to wind up casually sleeping with a lot of guys while looking to find an LTR need to be very careful. Lots of guys on apps are looking to casually date and sleep around. Wait to have sex with a guy and have a talk about goals and exclusivity before sex.



Currently in a relationship like this with no intention of getting married or merging households. Not sure how sustainable it will be long term.
[Post New]11/12/2019 08:02
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Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:
It’s kind of making me hate men and dating


Because men aren't allowed to want what they want, only what you want.


Yeah, like mistresses and side chicks. Go men!
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