Rich, famous, powerful - is it easier or more difficult to find a partner then the rest of us?

[Anonymous]

Do you think that all the money, fame and power makes it easier or more difficult for those who are blessed/cursed with them to find a life partner? How about second time around as well? Looks like lots of celebrities who split later in life struggle a lot to find someone. Those things tend to break rather fast second or third time around.

[Anonymous]

For men it is easier, women it is harder. Plus the dating pool is significantly smaller for them.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:For men it is easier, women it is harder. Plus the dating pool is significantly smaller for them.

Only if you define the pool in terms of “richer than me”.

[Anonymous]

For women it is much more difficult. It is another reason
wealthy women tend to dress understated (see recent thread).
It is intimidating for a man to ask a wealthy woman out.

[Anonymous]

I’m certainly not famous but I am wealthy (woman). Most men in their 40s who are looking to date are financially hurt by divorce and frankly it’s difficult to find anyone with my options/it’s intimidating inviting a man back to my home etc. I’ve decided to just atop apologizing for it- NO man would- and to rock my own life not worrying about what others do or don’t have- but it’s hard! I don’t have a ton of respect for men who can’t meet me as even a semi equal in terms of what options we have available to us. There’s always the fear that they might not like me but like my money etc. it’s not worse than having no money- not complaining so much as commenting.

[Anonymous]

I don’t have a ton of respect for men who can’t meet me as even a semi equal in terms of what options we have available to us.

So you have contempt for people who aren’t wealthy. Eww.

[Anonymous]

What? Of course. How is this a question???

lol

[Anonymous]

In HS one of my closest friends was the son of a billionaire (he still is). His parents really drilled into him that he needed to be careful about who he dated because there would always be woman out there who only dated him for his money.

I think he's still single at age 47, but that may be just because he is Gay (and for some reason, still closeted) or unappealing to women regardless of his money. It could go either way.

[Anonymous]

You might find someone just as rich, famous, powerful and as understanding of the burden that comes from being a famous person at a young age with major emotional and relationship baggage that's played out in public. Someone who has walked through the same fires and is willing t owork shit out together.

E.g., Jennifer Lopez and Alex Rodriguez, Ashton Kutcher and Mila Kunis, etc.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m certainly not famous but I am wealthy (woman). Most men in their 40s who are looking to date are financially hurt by divorce and frankly it’s difficult to find anyone with my options/it’s intimidating inviting a man back to my home etc. I’ve decided to just atop apologizing for it- NO man would- and to rock my own life not worrying about what others do or don’t have- but it’s hard! I don’t have a ton of respect for men who can’t meet me as even a semi equal in terms of what options we have available to us. There’s always the fear that they might not like me but like my money etc. it’s not worse than having no money- not complaining so much as commenting.

Yes, there are a lot of insecure men out there but of course I assume you would not be attracted/interested in them anyway. You sound very self-aware and smart. Continue to protect yourself and enjoy your life!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m certainly not famous but I am wealthy (woman). Most men in their 40s who are looking to date are financially hurt by divorce and frankly it’s difficult to find anyone with my options/it’s intimidating inviting a man back to my home etc. I’ve decided to just atop apologizing for it- NO man would- and to rock my own life not worrying about what others do or don’t have- but it’s hard! I don’t have a ton of respect for men who can’t meet me as even a semi equal in terms of what options we have available to us. There’s always the fear that they might not like me but like my money etc. it’s not worse than having no money- not complaining so much as commenting.

Yes, there are a lot of insecure men out there but of course I assume you would not be attracted/interested in them anyway. You sound very self-aware and smart. Continue to protect yourself and enjoy your life!

+1. It’s great that you are confident enough to know what you offer in a relationship and demand the same of a partner.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

I don’t have a ton of respect for men who can’t meet me as even a semi equal in terms of what options we have available to us.

So you have contempt for people who aren’t wealthy. Eww.

Not at all. Is it possible that over time I could have contempt for a man who doesn’t have the drive or intelligence I do? Sure. Is it likely that yet another weekend of me paying for everything would turn me off, over time? Yes. Is it likely my “things” intimidate and scare off good men- absolutely. It’s not a one way street.

I would never judge someone for not having family wealth or for not being a high earner. I also am not naive enough to believe that people with wildly different concepts of money/finances/culture will be equally matched. It’s not impossible but it is unlikely.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m certainly not famous but I am wealthy (woman). Most men in their 40s who are looking to date are financially hurt by divorce and frankly it’s difficult to find anyone with my options/it’s intimidating inviting a man back to my home etc. I’ve decided to just atop apologizing for it- NO man would- and to rock my own life not worrying about what others do or don’t have- but it’s hard! I don’t have a ton of respect for men who can’t meet me as even a semi equal in terms of what options we have available to us. There’s always the fear that they might not like me but like my money etc. it’s not worse than having no money- not complaining so much as commenting.

mid-40s guy here, very similar situation (high net worth) +1 all ^.

[Anonymous]

I think my widowed Dad would meet most of that definition plus he’s very good looking. He is very cautious about who he dates. For part of the year he lives near me and often women his age will ask me how is he doing, what is he up to all trying to figure out if he is seeing anyone. So on the one hand dating for him would be and probably is very easy but finding a long term partner could be very difficult.

[Lonely_Sojourner]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

I don’t have a ton of respect for men who can’t meet me as even a semi equal in terms of what options we have available to us.

So you have contempt for people who aren’t wealthy. Eww.

Not at all. Is it possible that over time I could have contempt for a man who doesn’t have the drive or intelligence I do? Sure. Is it likely that yet another weekend of me paying for everything would turn me off, over time? Yes. Is it likely my “things” intimidate and scare off good men- absolutely. It’s not a one way street.

I would never judge someone for not having family wealth or for not being a high earner. I also am not naive enough to believe that people with wildly different concepts of money/finances/culture will be equally matched. It’s not impossible but it is unlikely.

I agree with you as I tend to enjoy the finer things in life (2-3 intl trips a year, sailing, etc) and it does impact feelings when the person you're with refuses to pay simply because I have more, made better financial decisions, worked harder, etc. I did not come from a wealthy family; however, was fortunate that my wife and I worked as a team on all financial decisions. We're were both financial types, so it was rather easy. Being widowed for ~5 years, dating is tough as discussions surrounding finances have to be conducted in advance of various activities...