Dating Advised Videos While in a Serious Relationship

[Anonymous]

Hello People!

Here is the situation and I would like to hear what people has to say....

I've been with my boyfriend for about 2 1/2 years now. I moved in with him about 2 months ago. I am 48yrs and he is 56. We had great years with no problems, he's not one to fight so we can have normal conversations over issues. Anyways since I moved in with him I noticed or should I say I pay more attention at what he does. He's computer has been down, so he asked me to use my tablet. Well that's seems to be a problem for me because I started looking at what he watched. It happen at first without intention, but after seeing that he was watching videos on how to flirt, how to pick up women, how to have eye connection, on the right way to talk to the girl you like, etc. I got upset big time.... I mean I can go on on the subject on these Dating Advice videos from different people on YouTube.

I voiced my concern about this to him and I was told " I have been watching this for years now what difference does it make, I stopped playing bowling but I still watch videos on bowling" "some of those videos are on relationships" NONE that I have seen! Yes lots on how to be a gentleman, how to dress well, how to be charming...

I DON'T KNOW.... Truth is it bothers me to know that he's watching videos on how to get women when he has a Good Woman here "ME" .... I can be over reacting but it doesn't take away that I feel being judge by those videos and the insecurity that he's out there "practicing" (flirting) what he is learning on the videos.

Here are some of the tittles:

How to be charming without trying.
Flirting questions to ask a girl you like
Insecurities that turn off women
True facts about dating out of your league
The importance of eye contact and dating
Why women don't date nice guys
Signs she a bitch
Do women sleep around
More than friends
Style hacks women love
10 things guys should never do when meeting a girl
Dating younger women pros & cons
3 secret signs a shy girls likes you



Am I Crazy!!!! F#$@!!!!

[Anonymous]

Seriously not sure why he would be interested in this. This is a definite red flag. He may be all in with you now but is he always looking at this just in case?
Whatever the reason he’s looking at these videos, something isn’t right. Think seriously about your next steps.

[Anonymous]

Sounds like he doesn’t have a lot of experience with women and is trying to learn “the rules” so he doesn’t mess it up—he’s trying to hone his people skills. Not sure I see a problem with this but then, I’m socially awkward enough that I could see myself doing something similar in order to improve my social skills somewhat.

[Anonymous]

Smart men know that you’re always dating a woman, even years into a relationship. Would you rather be grunt at you and let himself go?

[Anonymous]

It doesn't mean anything.
People watch all kind of thing on Youtube mostly from auto suggestion and quresity.
Move on.

[Anonymous]

He's a 56 year-old man he can watch whatever the hell he wants!!!!

[Anonymous]

maybe he's trying to be better for you

[Anonymous]

Seriously? I looked at that list, and it’s. Or bad at all.its easy to go down a YouTube rabbit hole too. One minute you’re watching Oprah talk to Stanford students, next thing you’re watching how to pop a zit, then listening to someone describe the 5 types of bowel movements you can have.

Don’t freak out. You’re good. He is not trying to pick up women — he’s probably trying to make sure he isn’t Fing up stuff with you.

[Anonymous]

I don't see any problem with this. He's just trying to understand women better. Should he be concerned that you're on DCUM?

[Anonymous]

Seems a bit weird to me. What's his romantic history? Has he always been single of has he been married in the past? Does he often go out on his own or with friends without you?

[Anonymous]

OP, you seem bored (or just boring). Let it go...it's no problem at all.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Seems a bit weird to me. What's his romantic history? Has he always been single of has he been married in the past? Does he often go out on his own or with friends without you?

Of course it seems weird. Women do not want to know their partner’s browser history.

If he had done a private browser, his searches would have been way worse.

[Anonymous]

You are a nutter!

[Anonymous]

Those tittles would raise my brow too.

[Anonymous]

What’s odd to me is that he would do so from your tablet. He sounds...awkward.