Homecoming date

[Anonymous]

Our son got asked to homecoming. What does the date look like? Who drives? Is there dinner? Flowers? Pictures? Who pays for tickets etc. son is clueless. Girl says all my son. She wants him to plan the date and she wants to be treated in style. What does that mean to him.

[Anonymous]

Usually the person who asks for the date pays for the date. How old is your son? My son is a sophomore, and went with a group of kids and they all just kind of paired up as couples, so not real dates, just friends who are coupled up so they would all have a date for the night.

In his group everybody went Dutch. Although I did give my son enough money to pay for her dinner or something if he felt that he was expected to. Of course he bought her a corsage

[Anonymous]

If she asked, then she should plan and pay. But it doesn't sound like she shares this opinion.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Our son got asked to homecoming. What does the date look like? Who drives? Is there dinner? Flowers? Pictures? Who pays for tickets etc. son is clueless. Girl says all my son. She wants him to plan the date and she wants to be treated in style. What does that mean to him.

He either agrees or he says no, then?

Usually the person who asks will pay or there will be some other discussion as to expectations. It sounds like the girl has given her expectations. Now your son has to decide if he agrees or not, and if he doesn't, to say so.

[Anonymous]

They should share the cost. Him paying all of it is crazy.

[Anonymous]

HS junior, my son has had a girlfriend all 3 years and all 3 years they've gone together and each paid their own way. Even at the dinner prior. He buys her a coursage, she buys him a boutiner, but the rest they each buy themselves.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:HS junior, my son has had a girlfriend all 3 years and all 3 years they've gone together and each paid their own way. Even at the dinner prior. He buys her a coursage, she buys him a boutiner, but the rest they each buy themselves.

Similar except BF goes to a different school. my DD pays for tix and dinner at her homecoming BF pays the next weekend.

[Anonymous]

If he would like to go with her. Then the each pay for their own ticket unless he feels he should because he likes her.

Flowers only corsage at Safeway, Giant, HT not expensive. I would order white goes with everything.

Driving are they going in a group? If so the group usually gets together and either parents drive or limos, or party bus.

Dinner many kids go to dinner as a group. If they want to go alone then help them pick something not expensive.

Party afterwoods some kids go to people's houses after the dance, check with your son if this is happening and decide what works for your family. Midnight pick up, sleep over, 2 am pick up lots of choices. It's what you are comfortable with.

[Anonymous]

She sounds greedy. Does he like her romantically?

[Anonymous]

Who drives? -- you offer. You call the girl's parents and offer. they may inform you that a group arrangement has been made.

Is there dinner? -- your son won't be having dinner alone with this girl. That is what is not going to happen. The girls in whatever group they go with (girls/boys they all like to go in groups, and the girls arrange this including where they all are going to dinner)

Flowers? -- yes. You will probably be the one to make sure this happens and that it is nice.

Pictures? -- girls will arrange. It will be at one of the girl's houses before they go to dinner in a group. Be there. You will want to be there. You likely won't get much information until the last minute, especially if you rely on your son for into. Call/be in touch with as many of the girls' parents, as possible (they won't think this is weird) to be in the loop.

Who pays for tickets? -- nice if son pays. It sort-of seals the deal that she is his date. I know, not fair.

He's needs to dress nice. His date may have an opinion. They may want to match.

Op, this is all a good thing. He's well liked. He's been chosen as a desirable date, a date who easy to include in the group. You want this. You want your son to have a group of friends to experience these HS moments. Even if the details are not what you'd expect as best.

[Anonymous]

^ pp again. This is NoVa public HS. May be different for you.

[Anonymous]

Wait...a girl from your DS's public school has asked him to homecoming? The girl sounds a little pushy for high school.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Wait...a girl from your DS's public school has asked him to homecoming? The girl sounds a little pushy for high school.

Huh?

[Anonymous]

Who pays for the limousine and the hotel room after?

[Anonymous]

The girl is not running this as a group date. She wants a one on one date. She has been asking him out and been "friends" since freshman year. She just asked him...but she has told him she liked him two years ago. No one is doing limo or hotel. It will just be a parent driving. Neither has a license, just learners. It is a public high school.