Introducing boyfriend to kids

[Anonymous]

I’ve been dating a guy for almost 2 years and thinking of introducing him to my kids (10 and 6 years old). But, I don’t know how to go about it. My kids are protective of me already said that they would get upset if I had a boyfriend. Any ideas?

[Anonymous]

Do your kids know you have a boyfriend? Start there.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Do your kids know you have a boyfriend? Start there.

I’ve never told them. But, their dad started telling them I have one a year ago (he’s very bitter and has been trying to get the kids against me). At that time, I was just dating another in a serious relationship.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Do your kids know you have a boyfriend? Start there.

I’ve never told them. But, their dad started telling them I have one a year ago (he’s very bitter and has been trying to get the kids against me). At that time, I was just dating another in a serious relationship.

*dating and not in a serious relationship

[Anonymous]

Start with telling them you have been seeing someone and see what questions they have about that. Let them see you or let them know you are going out on dates with them. After about 2 months mention you’d like them to meet him. Make it ice cream or a movie.

[Anonymous]

Tell them you’re dating first, then the meeting should be casual, short, and something they like doing. I’d do an outing for ice cream, a few hours at a park, or something like that. I suggest doing something on neutral ground (not at home), and make sure you’ve managed the boyfriends expectations for how it will go. If he doesn’t have kids he likely will expect them to be little adults, which kids aren’t, and he might not really know how to interact with them.

[Anonymous]

Are you serious? Considering marriage? If so, then yes its time. If not, person would never be introduced to my child.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Are you serious? Considering marriage? If so, then yes its time. If not, person would never be introduced to my child.

+1

Are you thinking about introducing him to the kids just because? Then no.

Thinking about marriage? Then yes, slowly and in as easy a way as possible.

[Anonymous]

Was he your AP?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Do your kids know you have a boyfriend? Start there.

I’ve never told them. But, their dad started telling them I have one a year ago (he’s very bitter and has been trying to get the kids against me). At that time, I was just dating another in a serious relationship.

Wait a minute.
You've been dating a guy for two years.
And a year ago their dad told them about a guy you weren't serious about.
Is this the same guy, or two different guys?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Are you serious? Considering marriage? If so, then yes its time. If not, person would never be introduced to my child.

+1

Are you thinking about introducing him to the kids just because? Then no.

Thinking about marriage? Then yes, slowly and in as easy a way as possible.

I want to get remarried, but would like to have a partner

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Are you serious? Considering marriage? If so, then yes its time. If not, person would never be introduced to my child.

+1

Are you thinking about introducing him to the kids just because? Then no.

Thinking about marriage? Then yes, slowly and in as easy a way as possible.

I want to get remarried, but would like to have a partner

I DON’T want to get remarried, but would like to have a partner.