doctor appt

[Anonymous]

Is it normal in anyone's family for your DH to take your child to a doctor's appointment? I've been a sahm and have taken care of most of the doctor appointments and I am now transitioning into the work force and have tried to get DH to take DD for a routine doc appt. He's not eager, my DD wants me to go and now I'm just wondering if I'm asking too much from DH and DD? What is ok, what's not when it comes to "mothering"?

[Anonymous]

Whaaaat??? yes, he can take your kid to the doctor.

[Anonymous]

We rotate all appointments. We have 3 kids so no one person can do 3 wellness and 6 dental visits a year...let alone sick visits. We try to schedule dental on Saturday mornings but our pediatrician's first appointment isn't till 8:10 so we just take turns going into work late. For sick appointments DH is more likely to take them because he has way more seniority at work and can come and go where as I have to take formal PTO to even step out of the office for an hour.

[Anonymous]

My husband couldn’t even name my child’s dr. Or dentist. Or orthodontist. Or probably even the vet.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We rotate all appointments. We have 3 kids so no one person can do 3 wellness and 6 dental visits a year...let alone sick visits. We try to schedule dental on Saturday mornings but our pediatrician's first appointment isn't till 8:10 so we just take turns going into work late. For sick appointments DH is more likely to take them because he has way more seniority at work and can come and go where as I have to take formal PTO to even step out of the office for an hour.

Whoa, ok so I am totally off the spectrum here from being a sahm for so long.

[Anonymous]

Of course it's normal. Your kid is used to you doing everything, it's important that she sees dad is just as capable as mom. I was a SAHM and then went back to work when DS was 4. Youre going to be in trouble if dh doesn't accept and realize that the dynamic is going to change with you going back to work

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My husband couldn’t even name my child’s dr. Or dentist. Or orthodontist. Or probably even the vet.

Thats really sad. Why don't you get him more involved?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My husband couldn’t even name my child’s dr. Or dentist. Or orthodontist. Or probably even the vet.

This is my experience so from going from this to the opposite is a leap.

[Anonymous]

Of course. DH handles most medical appointments because he has much more flexibility than I do. I take leave to attend appointments with specialists and other non routine appointments.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Of course. DH handles most medical appointments because he has much more flexibility than I do. I take leave to attend appointments with specialists and other non routine appointments.

Glad I posted this on here and see it's normal and even necessary in some families for DH to do these types of things.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Of course. DH handles most medical appointments because he has much more flexibility than I do. I take leave to attend appointments with specialists and other non routine appointments.

Glad I posted this on here and see it's normal and even necessary in some families for DH to do these types of things.

In other families, this might be a no-go. It's context-dependent, but it's not because one of you is the dad and the other is the mom, but because of logistics.

For example, a DH working ER shifts is unlikely to be able to get away for doctor appointments easily, so if paired with a SAHM, it makes sense for the mom to do most (if not all) of the visits.

What is the context for you, OP?

[Anonymous]

Your DH should be doing half of the appointments. The only exception is if your DD wants you there for female-only things. Not sure how old she is, but I know I would have been mortified if my doctor brought up, say, puberty stuff in front of my dad. In that case, you could divide it so you do doctor appointments and DH does dentist and orthodontist.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Of course. DH handles most medical appointments because he has much more flexibility than I do. I take leave to attend appointments with specialists and other non routine appointments.

Glad I posted this on here and see it's normal and even necessary in some families for DH to do these types of things.

For us, it's not necessary. We both have jobs that allow us to take DS to doctors appts, have sick/snow days, etc. I just don't think that being the 100% default parent (when it's not necessary) is a good thing.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Of course. DH handles most medical appointments because he has much more flexibility than I do. I take leave to attend appointments with specialists and other non routine appointments.

Glad I posted this on here and see it's normal and even necessary in some families for DH to do these types of things.

For us, it's not necessary. We both have jobs that allow us to take DS to doctors appts, have sick/snow days, etc. I just don't think that being the 100% default parent (when it's not necessary) is a good thing.

True.

[Anonymous]

Does your DH have a job that's not flexible? If so, it makes sense. But otherwise, what's your plan during the first few months when you can't really take days off?