If you hate baby stage, did you go for a third?
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Anonymous
| Kids 6 and 3, trying to decide if I want one more. We are out of diapers, cribs, almost out of naps. I’d love a third but not sure I really want to relive those rough early years. If you are not a baby person, did you for for 3 and if so, what is the age gap between your children? |
Anonymous
| My kids are 17 months apart, the second one is adopted, and I barely wanted one let alone two. We are DEFINITELY not having a third. |
Anonymous
Poor kids. Why adopt if you don’t want them. |
Anonymous
| Nope. I hated being pregnant and viewed the newborn/infant phase as something to suffer through in order to get to the "good" stuff... didn't enjoy a single moment until kids were over 6 months of age. My husband would love a third but it's a hard pass from me. |
Anonymous
Only the second is adopted. Biologically, she is extended family. |
Anonymous
| I didn't go for a second. |
Anonymous
| Nope. |
Anonymous
| We did! With each kid the hateful baby period feels shorter. It may be because our oldest is a tween and the baby is almost 4mo and we can see fleeting childhood. Still kind of hateful (not gonna lie) but it feels so brief. And our third is perfect! |
Anonymous
Same here. |
Anonymous
Age gap between first two is 2 1/2 years. Then had our 3rd four years after our 2nd child. I am also not a fan of the baby years. They are REALLY hard. But I adore my third and she has brought so much fun and joy to our family. I can't imagine life without her. We also have a really fabulous mother's helper, and that has made things soooo much better! 
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Anonymous
| Yes. Third is almost 18m and hugs me constantly. Considering a fourth. |
Anonymous
| Nope. Knew I couldn’t handle it. |
Anonymous
| Yes. We had 3 under 4 though because we knew we wanted 3 but hated the baby stage. |
Anonymous
| My DH talked me into it. I hate pregnancy and don’t really love the lump stage. The first almost killed me and if the complication had arisen again with #2, we definitely would have been some. The third has been the easiest so far and at 10 months, I am so glad we did it. Once I can stop pumping at 1, basically all the terrible stuff will be done and I will be up to the fun part with all 3. Kids will be 5/3/1; all very close to 2 years apart. (Definitely no 4.) |
Anonymous
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My 2 kids are 2 1/2 years apart. Briefly considered having a 3rd but opted not to. Got my tubes tied - zero regrets.
But I was 36 when I had my second baby. Maybe if I had been younger I would have given stronger consideration to having a third... |