Ever left because of another parent?

[Anonymous]

I myself have never done this because I guess I have been lucky, but I am wondering if another parent has ever just behaved so outrageously that you left your team. I have seen some pretty poor behavior over the years including threatening to fight a coach, a ref, terrible language etc. DDs team is pretty relaxed and, to be honest, not too good, but we are all pretty mellow

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I myself have never done this because I guess I have been lucky, but I am wondering if another parent has ever just behaved so outrageously that you left your team. I have seen some pretty poor behavior over the years including threatening to fight a coach, a ref, terrible language etc. DDs team is pretty relaxed and, to be honest, not too good, but we are all pretty mellow

No, but last year, if a particularly bad set of parents had not left the club, we would have considered leaving. The real problem is the substantial risk you will run into the same issues at any other NOVA club.

[Anonymous]

I'd ask the coach if this is typical parent behavior. If yes, then I'd finish the season and leave.

[Anonymous]

No, but thinking about it because of a player that has such terrible behavior it is impacting the whole team.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:No, but thinking about it because of a player that has such terrible behavior it is impacting the whole team.

What age?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:No, but thinking about it because of a player that has such terrible behavior it is impacting the whole team.

What age?

Us too. U10.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I myself have never done this because I guess I have been lucky, but I am wondering if another parent has ever just behaved so outrageously that you left your team. I have seen some pretty poor behavior over the years including threatening to fight a coach, a ref, terrible language etc. DDs team is pretty relaxed and, to be honest, not too good, but we are all pretty mellow

No, but last year, if a particularly bad set of parents had not left the club, we would have considered leaving. The real problem is the substantial risk you will run into the same issues at any other NOVA club.

Yes this will happen. Or the toxic family will just also leave and you all be together again. That said - toxic parents are a big challenge. I dont understand why the clubs dont shut it down immediately. It can be a team destroyer.

[Anonymous]

If they hang out on DCUM-I leave immediately.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If they hang out on DCUM-I leave immediately.

You can’t escape yourself.

[Anonymous]

No, but we’ve seen a player be asked to leave a club because of their parents’ behavior. This was a family we knew at school and their son played with a friends one year ahead of ours. The parents took videos of every game and tracked everyone’s playing time. They encouraged other families to complain to the coach. That and other behaviors made it difficult for the team to be a team. The coaches asked them not to return.

They changed clubs and then a year or two later the mom had an affair with a coach and apparently the dad emailed the entire team about it (a friend’s son played with them). They ended up moving away and nobody misses them.

[Anonymous]

Please... my kid would have quit every single team he has been on since he was 5.

It's a learning experience.

[Anonymous]

We’ve been lucky with non obnoxious parents of team members.

There have been 2 teams that our kids have played against over the past 9 years that had parents that behaved so abominably that someone reported them. Both times parents were talking or yelling about players within the players’ earshot. Once it involved body shape/size, and once it involved ethnicity.

I don’t understand wth is wrong with some adults.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We’ve been lucky with non obnoxious parents of team members.

There have been 2 teams that our kids have played against over the past 9 years that had parents that behaved so abominably that someone reported them. Both times parents were talking or yelling about players within the players’ earshot. Once it involved body shape/size, and once it involved ethnicity.

I don’t understand wth is wrong with some adults.

There's a guy who makes up statistics to prove his kid is the best and shares it with the coaches. He has a financial stake so people have to kind of go along with it. He has always insisted his kid is too good to play on age level. One time his kid played at age with my kid's team and the coach took the kid out because he or she wasnt performing. The guy was livid and confronted the coach, but this coach told him to pound sand. I am so glad his kid played up or I would've left.

[Anonymous]

Seems strange that OP started this thread and everybody gets along and the parents are mellow. Is this another example of parents stirring the pot to get their kid ahead in the team?

[Anonymous]

Yes, left lacrosse because of other parents horrible behavior. Same with soccer. While both of my DS and DD made college level decided to give competitive sports up and just play on rec teams in college. Totally tired of parents behaving like spoiled children.