Tell me about being a mom to a DS and DD

[Anonymous]

I have a 1 year old DS and am pregnant with #2. We just found out baby #2 is a girl...they will be about 2 years apart. We are probably done after 2, and I'm a bit sad that neither of them will have a same-sex sibling. If you have 2 (DS & DD) please tell me the things you love about this combo and the things I should prepare for that might not be obvious. I really appreciate your insight!

[Anonymous]

I love having both a boy and a girl, because then I get to experience raising both genders.

I ended up with a quiet, gentle, non-athletic boy. And my girl is very competitive and hypercritical.

My daughter likes wearing some hand-me-downs of her brother's. They are closely bonded but could not be any more different!

[Anonymous]

Gender will be the least of your worries for the next year lol, I have a 2 yo and a 3 month old and it’s a shitshow. The only real difference so far is diaper changes are more frightening because it’s hard to clean poop out of a vagina?? And oh my god the meconium poop traumatized us with a girl in the hospital.

Girl clothes are fun to buy, so there’s that. With them being so close in age, they will be great playmates at least as children, I can already see that starting.

Congrats! Most people love having one of each so you’ll get lots of comments on how perfect your family is

[Anonymous]

I have a 3 year old DD and a 1 year old DS. So far nothing has been different about one being a boy and one being a girl. I do think girls learn everything a bit quicker, but boys are stronger even as babies (both kids are quite physical and athletic). We have a very neutral playroom with toys of both sexes. My DD has always been 100% about purses and dolls and DS is about trucks and balls. That's been a shock to me (I'm a tomboy and DH is the cook in the family). But DS does love tea parties. They play together really nicely and it's been a great age difference.

I too was a little upset about not having same sex siblings, so we're 90% sure we'll go for a 3rd.

[Anonymous]

11:08 is right, the sex of your kids will not matter one bit while you are surviving the 2 year age gap!

I have one of each and it's awesome. Once the baby is born you really stop considering all the other possible combos because you are so in love with what is right in front of you.

Mine are 3 and 5 now and it's SO GREAT. I thought the first year of 2 was hard, and then I also thought the 2nd year of having 2 was hard (in new and different ways!) and now I can say IT'S AWESOME. It's finally stopped being mostly hard and is really fun a lot of the time.

And yes, girl clothes are way more fun, but I actually really like the simplicity of boys clothes. So I like having both

[Anonymous]

I have 1 of each exactly two years apart. I only had a sister so I did not understand brother-sister relationships. They are older teens and get along great. They always have...much better than my sister and I. Congrats.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have a 3 year old DD and a 1 year old DS. So far nothing has been different about one being a boy and one being a girl. I do think girls learn everything a bit quicker, but boys are stronger even as babies (both kids are quite physical and athletic). We have a very neutral playroom with toys of both sexes. My DD has always been 100% about purses and dolls and DS is about trucks and balls. That's been a shock to me (I'm a tomboy and DH is the cook in the family). But DS does love tea parties. They play together really nicely and it's been a great age difference.

I too was a little upset about not having same sex siblings, so we're 90% sure we'll go for a 3rd.

Just to get a same sex sibling?

[Anonymous]

I'm female and have two brothers. My two brothers do not get along at all ... in fact my younger brother and I are very close, and always have been.

[Anonymous]

They'll be able to date each other's friends! And they will probably be more comfortable relating to and communicating with opposite genders in the workplace and school etc since they grew up with such close-aged same sex siblings.

[Anonymous]

My son is now 15 and my daughter 13. They argue and bicker all day long.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:They'll be able to date each other's friends! And they will probably be more comfortable relating to and communicating with opposite genders in the workplace and school etc since they grew up with such close-aged same sex siblings.

Er... as the parent of teens, that's not really reassuring. What a strange thing to highlight.

[Anonymous]

DD is 2.5 years older than DS. I think sometimes the opposite would have worked out better, because of maturity--I think DS would have played more with a younger sibling, DD is kind of haughty at times. But overall they get a long pretty well, and have no issues.

I did also mourn not having two DDs, as I grew up with a sister and we were close, but it's been fascinating to have kids of both genders and see how things differ. Random things, like seeing a first-grade boy soccer team and a first-grade girl soccer team.

Oh yeah, and a younger DD can certainly inherit a lot of her brother's clothes, which is convenient, until they are old enough to care A LOT about what they wear.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have a 3 year old DD and a 1 year old DS. So far nothing has been different about one being a boy and one being a girl. I do think girls learn everything a bit quicker, but boys are stronger even as babies (both kids are quite physical and athletic). We have a very neutral playroom with toys of both sexes. My DD has always been 100% about purses and dolls and DS is about trucks and balls. That's been a shock to me (I'm a tomboy and DH is the cook in the family). But DS does love tea parties. They play together really nicely and it's been a great age difference.

I too was a little upset about not having same sex siblings, so we're 90% sure we'll go for a 3rd.

Just to get a same sex sibling?

And only one of them will get a same sex sibling! I don't understand that at all...

[Anonymous]

I have a boy and a girl who are 22 months apart (the boy is older). I can honestly say I had no gender preference and would have been equally happy with two girls and two boys. But this way, I am happy I get to experience being a mother to one of each. So far they've been pretty typical - a high energy, rough and tumble little boy obsessed with trucks and buses, and a cuddly gentle little girl. They adore one another but also fight endlessly.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My son is now 15 and my daughter 13. They argue and bicker all day long.

My next door neighbors have two boys the same age as your kids - it's World War III over there nearly every single day.