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Do you ever get to the point of "eh, whatever, I don't even care anymore?"
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Anonymous
| It's not that I don't care anymore, it's more along the lines of not really wanting to care about it and be disappointed again. Anyone get sort of "disinterested" in caring about TTC - sure, put in the effort, check to see if it worked, but not get too emotionally invested this time, again, still...? Is this sort of a cyclical emotional state? |
Anonymous
| Yes, I definitely felt like that a lot. On my IVF cycle that worked, though, (my second) I decided that I was going to go "all in." I told myself over and over again that it WAS going to work this time. I persuaded myself to really believe that it would happen for us. Yoga helped a lot. It was very, very scary and also a very risky thing to do, but it ended up being the cycle that worked. In all my cycles before that, I wouldn't let myself get too emotionally invested because I was so used to the constant disappointment. In the end, you just have to find out what works best for you. Good luck! |
Anonymous
| I can totally relate. I'm gearing up for my 3rd and last IVF cycle. I also have 3 failed IUI's on my resume. I've tried both, being disinterested and positive thinking during my various attempts. While being disinterested and checking out makes the disappointment of a failed cycle a lot easier to digest, I have found that it makes going through the injections and retrieval really hard, at least for me. So, as the PP said, it may be dangerous to become emotionally invested, but for me at least, the power of positive thinking helps me get through all the needles and horrible reactions to all the drugs. One dear friend who went through 6 fresh IVF cycles before adopting, always tells me, keep your eyes on the prize, focus on the end result we all so desperately want. |
Anonymous
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Yes Yes Yes, I'm so there. After 4 IUI, 3 IVF, 1 FET, 2 M/C.....I'm tired. Really tired of it all. I just want to snap my fingers and have it all go away. I'm 30 though....so knowing that I could try for a decade longer is freaking me out. Seriously? I guess I'll know when to stop. Also weird...I'm so used to treatments that I don't even thing IVf is a big deal anymore. B/W and U/S is so routine, not many women can say that.
I don't want to care anymore, but watching everyone around me get pregnant is heartbreaking. UUUGGGGGHHHHHHHH! Good thing my hubby is a rockstar. |
Anonymous
| 17:25-- I'm in a similar position to you -- 33 years old with 3 failed IVFs. Just wanted to say that you are not alone and that this process sucks. There are alot of times I wish I could just throw in the towel and be happy living childfree. But I know I want this too much. And yes, watching all my friends get pregnant within months of going off BCPs is slowly killing me. Hopefully we'll all have better luck in 2010!!! |
Anonymous
Yes, this is totally where I am. I don't know if it's cyclical or you just get to the point where it wears you down so much that you never want to get your hopes up again. |
Anonymous
| I wish! I've always been overly invested, and a basketcase throughout the process. |
Anonymous
After 2 failed iVF's and 4 failed IUI's i was ready to throw in the towl, i had become totally disinterested and not invested - but i tried this - i just kept telling myself this WILL WORK....and it did. my husband and family always said to keep "positive thinking...."and i never believed it, but i believe it now... good luck! |
Anonymous
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In in, too! I'm in the TWW and had quite a number of drinks at a holiday party on Saturday night because I just can't care anymore. I probably will again at another party this week. I've gone from almost no caffeine or alcohol to having both on a regular basis.
I'm glad for those who felt that positive thinking worked, but I've had too many cycles when I had great hope and nothing happened. Like one PP said, I guess I'm just tired. |
Anonymous
I can completely relate to this. If it is any consolation, I had pretty much given up after multiple IUIs and two IVFs. I was pretty numb...and then a family member became seriously ill during the 2ww. I was convinced with the lack of sleep and stress there was no way. In fact, I was mentally planning when to make my cycle review appt with my RE when the nurse called and told me I was pregnant. I was so down and not positive at all by that point. I am praying for all you ladies this season that your dreams come true. |
Anonymous
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Completely agree.... in the past 2.5 years I feel like I've...
-tried and been very positive and not tried and stopped thinking about TTC, didn't make a difference. -charted and not charted, didn't matter. -used OPKs some months and didn't other months, no difference. -TTC while doing acupuncture and/or yoga and and also TTC without it, neither worked. -had cycles where I didn't drink alcohol and ones that I did, didn't matter. -tried IUI several times, didn't work. Now going to give IVF a shot and am hoping for the best!! I definitely felt that the first year of TTC was the hardest, and after that have kind of given myself a break and figure what is meant to be will be. If you don't do that you will go crazy. Its definitely a long and tiring road. Good luck to everyone! |
Anonymous
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i'm sorry to everyone who is tired and down. ttc sucks sometimes and its a nasty emotional rollercoaster.
good luck everyone. 
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