Where do single people go?

[Anonymous]

Say on a Friday or Saturday night?

I’m separated, heading to divorce after more than a decade. I have no idea where to go on a Friday/Saturday evening to meet people. All my friends are married and I don’t want to be a third wheel.

Going to a bar seems like something I’m too old for. Do people still do that? I’m not desperate for a hookup, just looking for people to be around.

[Anonymous]

I go home. But I'm content being single.

[Anonymous]

That was helpful, if I wanted to stay home I wouldn’t have posted.

[Anonymous]

How old are you? What are your interests?

Honestly you should try online dating once you’re officially divorced.

[Anonymous]

I think it's fine to go to a restaurant with a bar if you want to have a drink and quick dinner by yourself after work or on the earlier side. Especially if they have a good happy hour menu.

How old and what location?

[Anonymous]

I’d join an nice fitness center with a pool, sauna and massage services. Treat yourself well. Also, I’d start a travel group for women and set up monthly weekend getaways, like take the Acela to NYC or spend a weekend at a resort in wine country. And plan fun restaurant nights. Happy fun people attract other happy fun people.

[Anonymous]

I’m OP, I’m a 43 y/o female

[Anonymous]

48 yr old female. My mom passed away last Nov. On Friday nights I have a standing dinner date with my dad. If I have the kids, we go family friendly. If ex has the the kids, we go grown up. It’s really nice but it is really creepy how many looks we get when it’s just the 2 of us.

Sat nights I do whatever interest me. I don’t want to sit at a bar with an essence a sign screaming “pick me up”. Zavazone has adults only nights which are a lot of fun. Sometimes I’ll go to wine tastings, cooking classes, painting nights. I also look to see what is going on at my shul. They offer lectures, discussions, music etc. I like to dive so I tend to go to a lot of underwater lectures—marine biology speakers, underwater photography exhibits, coral ecology—that type of thing.

I just can’t sit at a bar but if I do something fun for me I always have a good time. It’s easier to talk to someone if you’re both there for the same activity. You already have something in common.

My suggestion is rather than trying to find where the single people are, you find things that you like to do. You’ll meet a wide variety of people.

[Anonymous]

Single man, 39yo here. My kids are with me half the time, so I'm doing there activities every other weekend.

On the weekends I'm on my own I'm either at the gym, working on stuff around my house that got neglected when the kids were with me or on a date with someone I met online.

[Anonymous]

I do everything single that I’d do in a couple. I go alone or with friends. Movies, dinners, the bar, museums, coffee shops. Bring reading material.

I’m glad I learned to enjoy my own company young. It’s fun!

[Anonymous]

There are lots of groups on Meetup to do things with. You’re a little young for the ones that I belong to. (Most groups tend to trend older than their stated age, so my 45+ group tends to be more 55 y.o.s, for example). You just need to spend time figuring out what’s out there and try a few out until find some that are good fits.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I do everything single that I’d do in a couple. I go alone or with friends. Movies, dinners, the bar, museums, coffee shops. Bring reading material.

I’m glad I learned to enjoy my own company young. It’s fun!

I'm married now but was single for a long time after my divorce. This. Even now, I travel all the time alone for work. I go to restaurants by myself all the time; I usually sit at the bar with a book or just my phone, and it's so easy to talk to people.

Also you really need to do things that make you feel happy (or a least content), because when you are happy then you are more attractive to people.

[Anonymous]

Meetup!

[Anonymous]

"My suggestion is rather than trying to find where the single people are, you find things that you like to do. You’ll meet a wide variety of people."

This. Go to a wine tasting. Join a hiking club (or knitting or book club), take a class through smithsonian.edu on something that catches your fancy.

[Anonymous]

I was at a HS football game, watching DD play in the halftime show.

Not a great place to pick up women....