Do you accept the fact that your child will be a washout when they grow up?
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Anonymous
| Not a child with a learning disability or on a spectrum... my DS is 12, still young, but He shows no motivation or effort with anything- he’s neither driven by money, his father indulges him. DD, is no better,. I told my husband he’s not doing his kids any favors “letting things go” or by spoiling them. DH always overdoes more, if I say anything negative. I don’t bother fighting it anymore. My kids better hope I die before him... |
Anonymous
| What? |
Anonymous
| Some children mature later than others. Please give your children the time and space to grow. I have been surprised by the growth my DS has shown in later high school and as a freshman in college. |
Anonymous
| Op you are a textbook narcissist. Get some help. Thank god your kids have unconditional love from their dad. |
Anonymous
| NP poster...how is this OP a narcissist? |
Anonymous
| I can tell that he won’t be an MD or a lawyer. But he can still have a great life and do wonderful things. |
Anonymous
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I am 15:50 above with the late blooming son. This poem is always a good reminder to me:
https://poets.org/poem/children-1 |
Anonymous
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Narcissistic parents feed their own ego through the achievements of their children.
https://www.psychalive.org/the-problem-with-narcissistic-parents/ Is op’s son happy? Is he a good person? Op doesn’t care, because it doesn’t make her look good. It’s about her, not the kids. |
Anonymous
| What do you mean by “washout” op? What would “not a washout” look like? |
Anonymous
| Seems like a troll thread; if you’re for real, mom, do your kids a favor and choke on your wine tonight. |
Anonymous
Thank you. I'm so sick of people throwing that word around. 
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Anonymous
| My mom was like you. Now we barely talk. Your kid knows how you feel. |
Anonymous
And thanks to the poster who clarified it accurately. |
Anonymous
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"DH always overdoes more, if I say anything negative."
OP, before you worry about your DC, worry about your marriage. Your DC will grow up and improve even if it's not enough for you. On the other hand, your marriage has no reason to improve unless you work on it, soon. |
Anonymous
| My marriage is in the toilet because of this kids. |