Nap, or sex?

[Anonymous]

My spouse has chronic sleep difficulties. We also have an essentially dormant sex life (ED related). I would like to suggest we try a late weekend afternoon session in bed, but he is often napping then. He typically is totally for many things in theory, but in practice not so much. I realize I’m just looking for validation but should I just dive in and wake him —? Er, gently?

[Anonymous]

I recently did that...my boyfriend went to sleep and an hour or so later I really wanted to fool around and we did (I went down on him) but later the next day he criticized me for waking him up. I thought he’d be happy to get to fool around but he wasn’t. So yeah, won’t be initiating any mid sleep hookups again.

[Anonymous]

Sex. You might as well try it and if you get blow back don't do it again.

[Anonymous]

Sex

[Anonymous]

Me, I would do it, but you need to have a conversation with him. Sex is part of a relationship, and you need to find options that work for both of you.

[Anonymous]

So, has he gotten a prescription yet? Because if he has ED you can't be sure of anything. And even then. And if he hasn't gotten a prescription means he is not particularly motivated to have sex again.

[Anonymous]

Attempt the sex after he wakes up but before he gets out of bed

[Anonymous]

Give him a Brentwood Hello

[Anonymous]

Both? Sex and then nap.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Both? Sex and then nap.

Gold star answer.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Both? Sex and then nap.

Gold star answer.

Yup. Makes the nap better, plus you get laid!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Both? Sex and then nap.

Gold star answer.

Same here. How is this even a discussion? When toddler dd takes her afternoon nap that's when we have weekend day time sex and then nap for an hour. Glorious. Everyone is happy for the afternoon.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Both? Sex and then nap.

Gold star answer.

Same here. How is this even a discussion? When toddler dd takes her afternoon nap that's when we have weekend day time sex and then nap for an hour. Glorious. Everyone is happy for the afternoon.

Those were the good ole days for us. Now they're bigger but not so big that they know about sex and will leave us alone.

[Anonymous]

Napping makes nighttime sleep issues worse anyway, so you might as well wake him up and go for it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I recently did that...my boyfriend went to sleep and an hour or so later I really wanted to fool around and we did (I went down on him) but later the next day he criticized me for waking him up. I thought he’d be happy to get to fool around but he wasn’t. So yeah, won’t be initiating any mid sleep hookups again.

Dumb-ass of the year award winner...