Question for men on their 1st marriage with wives who were married before

[Anonymous]

Assuming you love your wife and are happy in the marriage, at some level do you wish she had not been married before? That is, both of you would have had the big first wedding and explored how to make a marriage work together rather than her already experiencing some of this?

[Anonymous]

Lol, no. She wasn't "pure" when she married her first husband.

[Anonymous]

Man here. I could not care any less that I wasn’t her first husband, and part of me is almost glad for it. I’m definitely glad she’s had a number of sex partners before me.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote: I’m definitely glad she’s had a number of sex partners before me.

Is that number in excess of 50? 100? 150?

[Anonymous]

Men don’t think this way.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote: I’m definitely glad she’s had a number of sex partners before me.

Is that number in excess of 50? 100? 150?

14 is the answer. I wish I could thank each of them.

[Anonymous]

I am the opposite: a woman who is the second wife of my first and only husband. In the wedding planning phase, I wished that he hadn't already done it before, so that it would be a new adventure for us both. After we got married, I realized that every relationship is its own adventure and I was glad that he'd had experience working through conflict in his first, short marriage (right out of undergrad). Everything that we've been through together in the past decade has eclipsed whatever came before for either of us. I would feel differently if I were trying to come after a long-term spouse/co-parent.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am the opposite: a woman who is the second wife of my first and only husband. In the wedding planning phase, I wished that he hadn't already done it before, so that it would be a new adventure for us both. After we got married, I realized that every relationship is its own adventure and I was glad that he'd had experience working through conflict in his first, short marriage (right out of undergrad). Everything that we've been through together in the past decade has eclipsed whatever came before for either of us. I would feel differently if I were trying to come after a long-term spouse/co-parent.

Thank you. This is what the post was intended to ask about, not # of sex partners.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote: I’m definitely glad she’s had a number of sex partners before me.

Is that number in excess of 50? 100? 150?

14 is the answer. I wish I could thank each of them.

Is it possible you mean 140? Please confirm.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote: I’m definitely glad she’s had a number of sex partners before me.

Is that number in excess of 50? 100? 150?

14 is the answer. I wish I could thank each of them.

Is it possible you mean 140? Please confirm.

WTF. Most women (people) haven't slept with 140 other people.

[Anonymous]

OP - To answer your question, yes.

[Anonymous]

Thank you in advance

[Anonymous]

Yes obviously

[Anonymous]

Who cares