If you are wealthy would you send your kids to a W school over private?

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Anonymous wrote:In our W neighborhood probably about 1/3 of the kids go to private. A large percentage were struggling in public for one reason or another. Many are quirky and could not deal socially with the big competitive environment of public schools and others were having trouble being motivated academically. I can think of only a handful of popular well adjusted kids who are A students who decided to go to private even for 9th.

Where I live in Bethesda 20817, everyone--or nearly everyone--with money is doing private. Liberal or Conservative. They have the resources and want out of MCPS.

yet, Whitman has 2000+ students. Must be all those poor people in Whitman.

Nobody said all poor. The net worth of those in private is just much, much higher.

Ah yes. Whitman, the school that draws from some of the wealthiest places in America, has poor students. LOLOLOL

Landon, Holton, Sidwell! The net worth of parents there is 10X that of WHITMAN. Be real.How many parents fly private with their kids who go to Whitman? A large minority do at the privates mentioned.

Whitman is a rich school. Stop pretending it’s not.

It's full of working stiffs...2 parents working for the government, parents who are doctors. Not big money...like we only work for fun, we don't need the money.

Ah yes. Whitman. The land of the working stiffs. You’re delusional.

I think you just have low standards of what you consider wealthy.

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Anonymous wrote:Whitman, Niche diversity: B+

Holton, Niche diversity: A

I guess if you're not Hispanic, then it's "diverse".

Whitman Hispanic: 12%
Holton Hispanic: 3%


Holton does have more wealthy black families, though, I'll give you that.

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Anonymous wrote:Whitman, Niche diversity: B+

Holton, Niche diversity: A

I guess if you're not Hispanic, then it's "diverse".

Whitman Hispanic: 12%
Holton Hispanic: 3%


Holton does have more wealthy black families, though, I'll give you that.

Cherry-picking data. Classic. Niche considers Holton to be doing better on diversity, so take it up with them.

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Anonymous wrote:In our W neighborhood probably about 1/3 of the kids go to private. A large percentage were struggling in public for one reason or another. Many are quirky and could not deal socially with the big competitive environment of public schools and others were having trouble being motivated academically. I can think of only a handful of popular well adjusted kids who are A students who decided to go to private even for 9th.

Where I live in Bethesda 20817, everyone--or nearly everyone--with money is doing private. Liberal or Conservative. They have the resources and want out of MCPS.

yet, Whitman has 2000+ students. Must be all those poor people in Whitman.

Nobody said all poor. The net worth of those in private is just much, much higher.

Ah yes. Whitman, the school that draws from some of the wealthiest places in America, has poor students. LOLOLOL

Landon, Holton, Sidwell! The net worth of parents there is 10X that of WHITMAN. Be real.How many parents fly private with their kids who go to Whitman? A large minority do at the privates mentioned.

Whitman is a rich school. Stop pretending it’s not.

It's full of working stiffs...2 parents working for the government, parents who are doctors. Not big money...like we only work for fun, we don't need the money.

Ah yes. Whitman. The land of the working stiffs. You’re delusional.

I think you just have low standards of what you consider wealthy.

Yep. Bethesda is poor. Everyone knows that.

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Anonymous wrote:private schools parents can try to justify paying up to $55000 for a subpar education from here to the heaven, but the fact is none of them can compete with the Ws.
Choose any academic competition and the W schools will run circles around them.

With this attitude and line of thinking YOU are much better off in public school. Many don't agree with you in private so you won't fit in, plus it sounds like you want o raise a "competitor" while most people in private are looking to raise trend setters and leaders.

Just check the stats on all your favorite leaders....pick an industry. While there will be public kids and private kids in both, leaders are overly represented from private. Less than 10% of the kids in the community try attend private, so that's your benchmark. If private kids are represented above 10%, then kids generally are better off.

Is the private school a cause or effect? Bill Gates went to private school, but his big entrepreneural break was a nepotism contract he got from his mom's friend on the board of IBM. But he got into computers because his private school has a rare at the time powerful computer.

Does it matter if it's cause or effect? It's stats. I'd like my kids to have to right peer group and resources, whatever those may be.

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Anonymous wrote:private schools parents can try to justify paying up to $55000 for a subpar education from here to the heaven, but the fact is none of them can compete with the Ws.
Choose any academic competition and the W schools will run circles around them.

With this attitude and line of thinking YOU are much better off in public school. Many don't agree with you in private so you won't fit in, plus it sounds like you want o raise a "competitor" while most people in private are looking to raise trend setters and leaders.

Just check the stats on all your favorite leaders....pick an industry. While there will be public kids and private kids in both, leaders are overly represented from private. Less than 10% of the kids in the community try attend private, so that's your benchmark. If private kids are represented above 10%, then kids generally are better off.

Is the private school a cause or effect? Bill Gates went to private school, but his big entrepreneural break was a nepotism contract he got from his mom's friend on the board of IBM. But he got into computers because his private school has a rare at the time powerful computer.

Do you think public school kids don’t benefit from nepotism? We’re talking about public schools in Potomac and Bethesda, not Compton.

Some do, most don't.

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Anonymous wrote:Whitman, Niche diversity: B+

Holton, Niche diversity: A

I guess if you're not Hispanic, then it's "diverse".

Whitman Hispanic: 12%
Holton Hispanic: 3%


Holton does have more wealthy black families, though, I'll give you that.

Cherry-picking data. Classic. Niche considers Holton to be doing better on diversity, so take it up with them.

Go tell a Hispanic person they are cherry picking data.

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Anonymous wrote:Why would a college accept a kid from a school with very few advanced classes?

Legacy
Money
Sports
Special talents.

The same reasons these kids are accepted at private schools

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Anonymous wrote:In our W neighborhood probably about 1/3 of the kids go to private. A large percentage were struggling in public for one reason or another. Many are quirky and could not deal socially with the big competitive environment of public schools and others were having trouble being motivated academically. I can think of only a handful of popular well adjusted kids who are A students who decided to go to private even for 9th.

Where I live in Bethesda 20817, everyone--or nearly everyone--with money is doing private. Liberal or Conservative. They have the resources and want out of MCPS.

yet, Whitman has 2000+ students. Must be all those poor people in Whitman.

Nobody said all poor. The net worth of those in private is just much, much higher.

Ah yes. Whitman, the school that draws from some of the wealthiest places in America, has poor students. LOLOLOL

Landon, Holton, Sidwell! The net worth of parents there is 10X that of WHITMAN. Be real.How many parents fly private with their kids who go to Whitman? A large minority do at the privates mentioned.

Whitman is a rich school. Stop pretending it’s not.

dp.. collectively, it's not as rich as the elite privates.

-public school parent

Rich.

Richer.

That’s what we’re arguing about. What stupidity.

It's like arguing about a good state school and an Ivy! Like it really makes a difference in life.

Totally agree.

I'm publicly educated all the way through. My kids will be privately educated at least prek-12, if not beyond. I expect we'll have similar HHIs adjusted for inflation in the end. The difference is in the softer skills, confidence, humility, happiness,
and well-roundedness. I don't think these are measurable. I don't like the mean over competitive nature of these large public schools and will pay to give my kids a better life and more positive mental health. Kids are 15, 11, 9 amd I already see the benefits - at least compared to me and my peers they're light years ahead. As I mentioned I was in a very wealthy public school, so mean spirited competition was real and shaped me.

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Anonymous wrote:Why would a college accept a kid from a school with very few advanced classes?

Legacy
Money
Sports
Special talents.

The same reasons these kids are accepted at private schools

Ah ok. Got it. So none of them are actually any good at teaching kids anything. Rich people just choose mediocrity for their kids.

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Anonymous wrote:Whitman, Niche diversity: B+

Holton, Niche diversity: A

I guess if you're not Hispanic, then it's "diverse".

Whitman Hispanic: 12%
Holton Hispanic: 3%


Holton does have more wealthy black families, though, I'll give you that.

Cherry-picking data. Classic. Niche considers Holton to be doing better on diversity, so take it up with them.

Go tell a Hispanic person they are cherry picking data.

Critical thinking isn’t your strong suit.

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Anonymous wrote:In our W neighborhood probably about 1/3 of the kids go to private. A large percentage were struggling in public for one reason or another. Many are quirky and could not deal socially with the big competitive environment of public schools and others were having trouble being motivated academically. I can think of only a handful of popular well adjusted kids who are A students who decided to go to private even for 9th.

Where I live in Bethesda 20817, everyone--or nearly everyone--with money is doing private. Liberal or Conservative. They have the resources and want out of MCPS.

I grew up in Bethesda, specifically the Whitman catchment, and graduated from there in 2009. Back then, most people I knew who lived in gigantic $2M+ homes were going to private schools instead of Whitman, though there were still a handful of kids in those homes who attended Whitman. Most kids actually attending Whitman back then lived in $600k-$1.5M homes. Fast forward to today, and homes zoned for Whitman and Churchill that are less than $1M are nearly non-existent, and even tear-downs are going for $900k. Homes that sold for just $1.3M as recently as 2019 could sell for $2.2M today. I find it extremely difficult to imagine that people living in an area that is as prohibitively expensive as Bethesda are abandoning MCPS for privates when the school enrollment trends in Bethesda show otherwise. In fact, I worry that Whitman and other schools in Bethesda/Potomac areas (and even RM at this point) are increasingly becoming "private public schools." Whitman was really affluent when I attended in the 2000s, but we still had an actual cohort of real middle-class students. Not DCUM "middle-class," but actual middle-class. I'm talking about dual fed families, households where one parent was a teacher for MCPS, and even a handful of students with a parent or parents who worked in high-paying blue-collar jobs. You won't find any families like that in Whitman anymore. In the next decade, there will be almost no kids at Whitman whose parents didn't buy their house (at least partially) with family money unless MoCo strives to bring more desperately needed affordable housing in the Whitman catchment.

I can just tell you that most people at my country club do private school, and most of the people I know in the 2+ million homes in 20817 do private school.

Some are family money. Many are entrepreneurs and other high earning professionals.

I think this pretty much sums it up. I've lived in Bethesda and Chevy Chase for a number of years now. Much of this school discussion can be reduced to basic human nature. For the very wealthy and privileged - the country club demographic - they will never send their children to a W school. Projecting status and exclusivity is very important to them. Nothing anyone says is going to convince them that sending a kid to Whitman is more valuable than sending a kid to Landon or Holton Arms. Because in their world it isn't. There's no status there.

For professionals with smart well-adjusted kids in the W clusters - families earning say 500, 600 thousand a year - nothing is going to convince them that spending $100,000 a year on two kids to attend private is worth it, particularly when you can get a very high level, very rigorous education at a W school. Those kids loading up on AP classes work their asses off. But they also have the benefit of being in a large school where there are all types of kids and everybody can find a place. Plus the wide variety of extracurriculars available at these schools. It's a no-brainer for these families.

So what you see - at least in the neighborhoods I'm familiar with - is that the private school kids tend to be very wealthy or they are special needs. Families decide that publics aren't going to work for their particular child. Could be behavioral issues, ADHD, lots of things. But to succeed in public schools does require a certain amount of self-motivation and an ability to read social situations.And everyone wants the best environment for their child. For many special needs kids who need more attention, privates probably are better.

Nothing anyone says here is going to change anyone's opinion. People live in their realities.

To the poster who said you can't take multivariable calculus in a public school here, yes you can. Whitman certainly offers it.

Spoken as someone who clearly has no direct experience with top private schools.

We have kids in private and some of this is true. The wealthiest in our zip code choose private more often than not and their kids are mostly lifers. For those who UMC but not uber-wealthy it's mostly the kids who have some kind of learning or social issue who chose private and many start in MS or HS.

We're not uber wealthy, but we have sent both kids through private school not because of any learning issues. Mainly wanting a way to get away from the woke culture at mcps which has destroyed education as we knew it. It is not a burden for us financially at all, but we don't have private jets or vacation homes.

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Anonymous wrote:In our W neighborhood probably about 1/3 of the kids go to private. A large percentage were struggling in public for one reason or another. Many are quirky and could not deal socially with the big competitive environment of public schools and others were having trouble being motivated academically. I can think of only a handful of popular well adjusted kids who are A students who decided to go to private even for 9th.

Where I live in Bethesda 20817, everyone--or nearly everyone--with money is doing private. Liberal or Conservative. They have the resources and want out of MCPS.

I grew up in Bethesda, specifically the Whitman catchment, and graduated from there in 2009. Back then, most people I knew who lived in gigantic $2M+ homes were going to private schools instead of Whitman, though there were still a handful of kids in those homes who attended Whitman. Most kids actually attending Whitman back then lived in $600k-$1.5M homes. Fast forward to today, and homes zoned for Whitman and Churchill that are less than $1M are nearly non-existent, and even tear-downs are going for $900k. Homes that sold for just $1.3M as recently as 2019 could sell for $2.2M today. I find it extremely difficult to imagine that people living in an area that is as prohibitively expensive as Bethesda are abandoning MCPS for privates when the school enrollment trends in Bethesda show otherwise. In fact, I worry that Whitman and other schools in Bethesda/Potomac areas (and even RM at this point) are increasingly becoming "private public schools." Whitman was really affluent when I attended in the 2000s, but we still had an actual cohort of real middle-class students. Not DCUM "middle-class," but actual middle-class. I'm talking about dual fed families, households where one parent was a teacher for MCPS, and even a handful of students with a parent or parents who worked in high-paying blue-collar jobs. You won't find any families like that in Whitman anymore. In the next decade, there will be almost no kids at Whitman whose parents didn't buy their house (at least partially) with family money unless MoCo strives to bring more desperately needed affordable housing in the Whitman catchment.

I can just tell you that most people at my country club do private school, and most of the people I know in the 2+ million homes in 20817 do private school.

Some are family money. Many are entrepreneurs and other high earning professionals.

I think this pretty much sums it up. I've lived in Bethesda and Chevy Chase for a number of years now. Much of this school discussion can be reduced to basic human nature. For the very wealthy and privileged - the country club demographic - they will never send their children to a W school. Projecting status and exclusivity is very important to them. Nothing anyone says is going to convince them that sending a kid to Whitman is more valuable than sending a kid to Landon or Holton Arms. Because in their world it isn't. There's no status there.

For professionals with smart well-adjusted kids in the W clusters - families earning say 500, 600 thousand a year - nothing is going to convince them that spending $100,000 a year on two kids to attend private is worth it, particularly when you can get a very high level, very rigorous education at a W school. Those kids loading up on AP classes work their asses off. But they also have the benefit of being in a large school where there are all types of kids and everybody can find a place. Plus the wide variety of extracurriculars available at these schools. It's a no-brainer for these families.

So what you see - at least in the neighborhoods I'm familiar with - is that the private school kids tend to be very wealthy or they are special needs. Families decide that publics aren't going to work for their particular child. Could be behavioral issues, ADHD, lots of things. But to succeed in public schools does require a certain amount of self-motivation and an ability to read social situations.And everyone wants the best environment for their child. For many special needs kids who need more attention, privates probably are better.

Nothing anyone says here is going to change anyone's opinion. People live in their realities.

To the poster who said you can't take multivariable calculus in a public school here, yes you can. Whitman certainly offers it.

Spoken as someone who clearly has no direct experience with top private schools.

We have kids in private and some of this is true. The wealthiest in our zip code choose private more often than not and their kids are mostly lifers. For those who UMC but not uber-wealthy it's mostly the kids who have some kind of learning or social issue who chose private and many start in MS or HS.

We're not uber wealthy, but we have sent both kids through private school not because of any learning issues. Mainly wanting a way to get away from the woke culture at mcps which has destroyed education as we knew it. It is not a burden for us financially at all, but we don't have private jets or vacation homes.

Well, arguably, you haven’t accomplished much yet given that the alleged “woke” culture did not start until 2020. So you “sent them through” for a whole two years? (*insert exaggerated Nancy Pelosi clap*). And probably a tiny cheap catholic school, nonetheless. 🙄 Stop embarrassing yourself.

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Anonymous wrote:In our W neighborhood probably about 1/3 of the kids go to private. A large percentage were struggling in public for one reason or another. Many are quirky and could not deal socially with the big competitive environment of public schools and others were having trouble being motivated academically. I can think of only a handful of popular well adjusted kids who are A students who decided to go to private even for 9th.

Well in my Churchill zoned neighborhood, most go to public. The only ones who are in private are because of religious choice (that's us) or those going to privates like McLean School or Lab School for significant learning differences. However, with my daughter being in private, we find that her classmates live in much more affluent neighborhoods like Avenel and areas Chevy Chase and Bethesda. So I am guessing that people in our neighborhood stayed in mcps because they just couldn't swing the tuition or wanted to use that extra money for cars and vacations.

You sound dumb and whiny. I’m a private school parent and I hate when people private school parents in the private school forum say this. The public school parents just made a different choice than you - by choice or by no choice. You sound like an unemployed mom with absolutely nothing to do and who is resentful that your neighbors live a much nicer life than you because they aren’t paying for private school.

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Anonymous wrote:Whitman, Niche diversity: B+

Holton, Niche diversity: A

Oh no not Niche. They will find a reason to claim it's false...just like they claim that there is no overall HS ranking that combines public schools and private schools.

Oh wait look! I just checked, and here is the high school ranking on Niche. A google search brings you to these links and the title of the lists are clear: Best High Schools in Maryland, Best Public High Schools in Maryland, and Best Private Schools in Maryland.

Bottom line, the three top W schools are in 8th, 13th, and 18th place for Best HS in Maryland. I know someone doesn't believe that this list is legit, but there you have it in black and white:

Overall Best High Schools in Maryland:

https://www.niche.com/k12/search/best-high-schools/s/maryland/



And here is public schools alone:

https://www.niche.com/k12/search/best-public-high-schools/s/maryland/



And finally private schools alone:

https://www.niche.com/k12/search/best-private-high-schools/s/maryland/