Anyone in a rush for kids to grow up?

[Anonymous]

My sister has been in a rush for her kids to grow up for years. As such, she project this on me. On their first birthday: “you don’t have a baby anymore!” When a mutual friend posts about their feelings surrounding their child starting kindergarten, my sister comments “FREEDOM!”
Various other things too, like turning her kids forward facing at 1, dropping the convertible seat at 3: “look who’s a big girl!”...at 28 pounds.

I don’t think I’m particularly babying to my boys, but my comparison I am.

I’m just not sure how to react to the comments and actions.

[Anonymous]

Sometimes I fantasize about traveling when my youngest is a little older. He's 1, so our "vacations" mostly suck. But he's a really sweet toddler, so those moments of wanting him to grow older are fleeting.

[Anonymous]

What's the big deal? You say that's nice and move on.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My sister has been in a rush for her kids to grow up for years. As such, she project this on me. On their first birthday: “you don’t have a baby anymore!” When a mutual friend posts about their feelings surrounding their child starting kindergarten, my sister comments “FREEDOM!”
Various other things too, like turning her kids forward facing at 1, dropping the convertible seat at 3: “look who’s a big girl!”...at 28 pounds.

I don’t think I’m particularly babying to my boys, but my comparison I am.

I’m just not sure how to react to the comments and actions.

I wanted to be out of the infant stage as fast as possible with both kids. Once they hit 8 months or so is when I truly start to enjoy them... until then I find it's kind of a drag. The newborn stage in particular... couldn't WAIT for that to be done with. Horrible.

Now that I have a toddler and an older baby, I am loving both stages, even the "terrible twos".

[Anonymous]

“All Grown Up and Nowhere to Go”
Excellent book.

[Anonymous]

My son is 10 and I’m thrilled I only have 8 to go. Every bit of independence he gains I celebrate, and I can’t wait till he’s out of the house.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My son is 10 and I’m thrilled I only have 8 to go. Every bit of independence he gains I celebrate, and I can’t wait till he’s out of the house.

Wow why?

[Anonymous]

No, and I bristled at my MIL pushing things too fast -- similar to you bristling at your sister, except it was my kid being pushed. Some people are easily bored, some people have a particular phase of childhood they think is fun. I loved the baby stage.

It's not your kids so just deflect and ignore.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My sister has been in a rush for her kids to grow up for years. As such, she project this on me. On their first birthday: “you don’t have a baby anymore!” When a mutual friend posts about their feelings surrounding their child starting kindergarten, my sister comments “FREEDOM!”
Various other things too, like turning her kids forward facing at 1, dropping the convertible seat at 3: “look who’s a big girl!”...at 28 pounds.

I don’t think I’m particularly babying to my boys, but my comparison I am.

I’m just not sure how to react to the comments and actions.

I guess I don't understand your dilemma. You don't have to comment on your sister's comments to mutual friends. You don't need to say anything about her car seat choices.

[Anonymous]

So? Babies and little kids are a lot of work and they come with a lot of stuff. I love my kids but I loved when they became big kids and traveling didn't involve 2 carseats and a stroller and diapers... yes it is FREEDOM when we can walk through an airport with just carryons! I love exploring and traveling with them now that they're more independent. Not everyone loves the baby/toddler stage.

[Anonymous]

My parents do this too. Every conversation seems to be something like "when are you forward facing her?" "When are you moving from her crib?" They also stress me out by talking about how I need to make sure my kids wear all of their clothes and don't outgrow them.

[Anonymous]

I’m at the beach with my kids who are 4th and 6th graders. They’re so independent it’s lovely.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My son is 10 and I’m thrilled I only have 8 to go. Every bit of independence he gains I celebrate, and I can’t wait till he’s out of the house.

Wow why?

A few reasons. Becoming a mother is the biggest mistake I’ve ever made - it’s the most traumatic thing I’ve ever been through (and turned my previously confident fun loving self into an anxiety ridden, fearful, mess who struggles constantly with depression and PTSD from birth, PPD, and domestic abuse), my child’s father is the worlds biggest asshole and I get to block his number on my sons 18th birthday and never talk to him again, and because my kid has been incredibly difficult to raise.

I’m in therapy, but man I cannot wait to be able to pursue a real career that is meaningful to me and do things that are too expensive with a child tagalong - like traveling abroad. At least I’m over halfway.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My son is 10 and I’m thrilled I only have 8 to go. Every bit of independence he gains I celebrate, and I can’t wait till he’s out of the house.

Wow why?

A few reasons. Becoming a mother is the biggest mistake I’ve ever made - it’s the most traumatic thing I’ve ever been through (and turned my previously confident fun loving self into an anxiety ridden, fearful, mess who struggles constantly with depression and PTSD from birth, PPD, and domestic abuse), my child’s father is the worlds biggest asshole and I get to block his number on my sons 18th birthday and never talk to him again, and because my kid has been incredibly difficult to raise.

I’m in therapy, but man I cannot wait to be able to pursue a real career that is meaningful to me and do things that are too expensive with a child tagalong - like traveling abroad. At least I’m over halfway.

Wow

[Anonymous]

^^ this is why some people shouldn’t have kids. I’m sorry for your son.