Can I temporarily take my child away from his father?

[Anonymous]

Yesterday I booked a hotel for a few days because I do not feel safe around DH. He has anger problems. He's going out of town Sunday for a work trip. We're not out of state and this is temporary. He's threatening to call the police. I've explained I'm not doing anything illegal. Will the police really bother with this?

[Anonymous]

It's only illegal if you already have some kind of court order (at least in Maryland). Keep him informed of where you are, otherwise it will look bad when you do go to court.

[Anonymous]

What is your long term solution? If he makes you feel unsafe today, why do you think he'll be safe when you come back.

Unless there's a court order, you can take the child and go. But you need to be getting your ducks in a row for a custody battle and divorce.

[Anonymous]

It's called custodial kidnapping and, yes, it will get you in trouble. Not to mention the fact that it makes you a horrible person unless you can convince us about your 'safety' concerns.

Source: used to work for CPS in Richmond and I've lost count of the number of times a mother took the kids away like this as some form of punishment to the dad. The "anger issues" ALWAYS turned out to be BS. You spent all his money or slept with the neighbor. Yeah, that sorta makes people mad.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It's called custodial kidnapping and, yes, it will get you in trouble. Not to mention the fact that it makes you a horrible person unless you can convince us about your 'safety' concerns.

Source: used to work for CPS in Richmond and I've lost count of the number of times a mother took the kids away like this as some form of punishment to the dad. The "anger issues" ALWAYS turned out to be BS. You spent all his money or slept with the neighbor. Yeah, that sorta makes people mad.

OP here. I'm pregnant and his anger issues are real. I have explained it's temporary and let him know we will see him when he returns from his work trip. He seems to think the police are going to put me in jail. I'm already in my 7th month. I had to get away because the stress/ anger is harming me and the unborn child.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It's called custodial kidnapping and, yes, it will get you in trouble. Not to mention the fact that it makes you a horrible person unless you can convince us about your 'safety' concerns.

Source: used to work for CPS in Richmond and I've lost count of the number of times a mother took the kids away like this as some form of punishment to the dad. The "anger issues" ALWAYS turned out to be BS. You spent all his money or slept with the neighbor. Yeah, that sorta makes people mad.

OP here. I'm pregnant and his anger issues are real. I have explained it's temporary and let him know we will see him when he returns from his work trip. He seems to think the police are going to put me in jail. I'm already in my 7th month. I had to get away because the stress/ anger is harming me and the unborn child.

You will need to document the "harm" his "anger" has done to the fetus and you. You'll need medical documents to back it up. A few nights bad sleep on the couch will not suffice. And be certain that you have severely compromised your position in regards to custody. Judges do not look favorably upon spouses who use their children as pawns. I doubt you will listen but you are making a very bad decision.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:
You will need to document the "harm" his "anger" has done to the fetus and you. You'll need medical documents to back it up. A few nights bad sleep on the couch will not suffice. And be certain that you have severely compromised your position in regards to custody. Judges do not look favorably upon spouses who use their children as pawns. I doubt you will listen but you are making a very bad decision.

I can't comment on the law specifically about this case, but I know that this is BS. I have seen tons of people use their kids as pawns in some part of divorce proceedings...most notably insisting on full custody when they have never been the primary/default parent just to avoid child support.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It's called custodial kidnapping and, yes, it will get you in trouble. Not to mention the fact that it makes you a horrible person unless you can convince us about your 'safety' concerns.

Source: used to work for CPS in Richmond and I've lost count of the number of times a mother took the kids away like this as some form of punishment to the dad. The "anger issues" ALWAYS turned out to be BS. You spent all his money or slept with the neighbor. Yeah, that sorta makes people mad.

OP here. I'm pregnant and his anger issues are real. I have explained it's temporary and let him know we will see him when he returns from his work trip. He seems to think the police are going to put me in jail. I'm already in my 7th month. I had to get away because the stress/ anger is harming me and the unborn child.

You will need to document the "harm" his "anger" has done to the fetus and you. You'll need medical documents to back it up. A few nights bad sleep on the couch will not suffice. And be certain that you have severely compromised your position in regards to custody. Judges do not look favorably upon spouses who use their children as pawns. I doubt you will listen but you are making a very bad decision.

I am keeping myself and my children safe. I will very likely have a premature baby. Even my doctor has told me to reduce stress. I'm on modified bedrest right now. I've been bleeding. I have been communicating with him. I'm not in the position to even easily drive right now.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It's called custodial kidnapping and, yes, it will get you in trouble. Not to mention the fact that it makes you a horrible person unless you can convince us about your 'safety' concerns.

Source: used to work for CPS in Richmond and I've lost count of the number of times a mother took the kids away like this as some form of punishment to the dad. The "anger issues" ALWAYS turned out to be BS. You spent all his money or slept with the neighbor. Yeah, that sorta makes people mad.

OP here. I'm pregnant and his anger issues are real. I have explained it's temporary and let him know we will see him when he returns from his work trip. He seems to think the police are going to put me in jail. I'm already in my 7th month. I had to get away because the stress/ anger is harming me and the unborn child.

You will need to document the "harm" his "anger" has done to the fetus and you. You'll need medical documents to back it up. A few nights bad sleep on the couch will not suffice. And be certain that you have severely compromised your position in regards to custody. Judges do not look favorably upon spouses who use their children as pawns. I doubt you will listen but you are making a very bad decision.

Yeah, pp. She should definitely remain a hostage of the angry guy.

Seriously, if she wants to be apart from him (for ANY reason) that is her prerogative. Someone is going to have to care for the child during that time (either her or him or some third party), so why not her? It's for a few days. She does not say she's preventing him from seeing the child forever.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It's called custodial kidnapping and, yes, it will get you in trouble. Not to mention the fact that it makes you a horrible person unless you can convince us about your 'safety' concerns.

Source: used to work for CPS in Richmond and I've lost count of the number of times a mother took the kids away like this as some form of punishment to the dad. The "anger issues" ALWAYS turned out to be BS. You spent all his money or slept with the neighbor. Yeah, that sorta makes people mad.

OP here. I'm pregnant and his anger issues are real. I have explained it's temporary and let him know we will see him when he returns from his work trip. He seems to think the police are going to put me in jail. I'm already in my 7th month. I had to get away because the stress/ anger is harming me and the unborn child.

You will need to document the "harm" his "anger" has done to the fetus and you. You'll need medical documents to back it up. A few nights bad sleep on the couch will not suffice. And be certain that you have severely compromised your position in regards to custody. Judges do not look favorably upon spouses who use their children as pawns. I doubt you will listen but you are making a very bad decision.

Yeah, pp. She should definitely remain a hostage of the angry guy.

Seriously, if she wants to be apart from him (for ANY reason) that is her prerogative. Someone is going to have to care for the child during that time (either her or him or some third party), so why not her? It's for a few days. She does not say she's preventing him from seeing the child forever.

OP here. Thank you. I'm going to try to get some rest now.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It's called custodial kidnapping and, yes, it will get you in trouble. Not to mention the fact that it makes you a horrible person unless you can convince us about your 'safety' concerns.

Source: used to work for CPS in Richmond and I've lost count of the number of times a mother took the kids away like this as some form of punishment to the dad. The "anger issues" ALWAYS turned out to be BS. You spent all his money or slept with the neighbor. Yeah, that sorta makes people mad.

OP here. I'm pregnant and his anger issues are real. I have explained it's temporary and let him know we will see him when he returns from his work trip. He seems to think the police are going to put me in jail. I'm already in my 7th month. I had to get away because the stress/ anger is harming me and the unborn child.

You will need to document the "harm" his "anger" has done to the fetus and you. You'll need medical documents to back it up. A few nights bad sleep on the couch will not suffice. And be certain that you have severely compromised your position in regards to custody. Judges do not look favorably upon spouses who use their children as pawns. I doubt you will listen but you are making a very bad decision.

I am keeping myself and my children safe. I will very likely have a premature baby. Even my doctor has told me to reduce stress. I'm on modified bedrest right now. I've been bleeding. I have been communicating with him. I'm not in the position to even easily drive right now.

OP, I was exactly in your shoes years ago in my first marriage. I got a letter from my OB. My lawyer negotiated my then-H’s move out. Start to finish, that took 4 days, 3 nights. My then-H wanted to avoid the TRO.

[Anonymous]

The courts will crucify you. This isn't 1975 anymore. Dads have rights to their kids and moms aren't the default parent. The credit card you used to hide his son probably gets paid by him. Judges notice these things. That, and the fact that your kid will hate you when he realizes you used him as a weapon against his own father.

Have fun though!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The courts will crucify you. This isn't 1975 anymore. Dads have rights to their kids and moms aren't the default parent. The credit card you used to hide his son probably gets paid by him. Judges notice these things. That, and the fact that your kid will hate you when he realizes you used him as a weapon against his own father.

Have fun though!

This must be the same poster posting again and again.

It doesn't sound like she's using her children as a weapon against the father. I doubt her kid will hate her. Maybe the kid will appreciate the lengths she took to protect him.

[Anonymous]

Courts and The Police are 2 different things. The Police will not come looking for you because this is civil and there is no legal agreement for them to enforce. Now, if he calls them and lies about you and says he is concerned for the child then they might come to see the situation. Is he likely to go that route though?

[Anonymous]

Call a domestic violence shelter and get a lawyer. I'm sorry OP!