Back-Up Boyfriend JIC

Anonymous
Do others young ladies have male friends they keep around as a back-up in case their current relationship ends?
Anonymous
Interesting I did this through college. Had a great boyfriend, but did not want to be alone
Anonymous
Nope. But when I was casually dating post divorce, I did have backup people to have sex with. But never a backup boyfriend. Not only do I not have time for that but never would I respect a man who fell into that type of trap.
Anonymous
In my early 20’s I did. He wasn’t really a back up BF more like a FWB. If we were both unattached we’d hang out together, travel together and take care of each other’s sexual needs. We were too different for it to ever be a LTR but it was a nice relationship.
Anonymous
Perhaps I was a bit promiscuous for the late 80s. I had a FWB and dated up to 3 others guys at once. Never more than necking with the others. FWB and I had sex weekly. Oh, he did have a gf for part of the time.
Anonymous
Yes, they all do. It’s called monkey-branching.
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:Interesting I did this through college. Had a great boyfriend, but did not want to be alone


You are an insecure and manipulative person.

Manipulating other people to satisfy your own needs is awful.
Anonymous
Boys did it as well
Anonymous
Common practice among some people
Anonymous
I think there are people of both sexes who do it. I know a man who married his on the rebound.
Anonymous
Ugh. I never did. It's ok to be single - really single - sometimes.

I have a lot of male friends because I value their friendship. When I'm not dating someone (which is often), I appreciate even more that I have male and female friends. Makes your life feel full even when that one particular area is empty.
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:Boys did it as well


Never knew any men that did this because basically no woman that they had interest in was going to tolerate waiting on deck for her turn. Hot Women always had one in the bullpen. Men would backslide into an old relationship after getting dumped to feel good about themselves and realize almost immediately it was a mistake.

Both moves were unkind to the unsuspecting partner.
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