I spanked today
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Anonymous
| I lost it today. I have two kids 6 and 4 and my 4yr old is extremely stubborn, and loves to test boundaries. Well today she jerked her hand away from mine in her brothers camp parking lot and ran off(just to be defiant) a van had to quickly stop and when I got to her I gave her 2 swats to her bottom and yelled “did that hurt?! Because getting hit by that car is going to hurt a lot worse!!”. She cried a bit and then apologized to me in the car, saying that she’s never ever going to run away from me again. I know I should apologize too but to be honest, I’m not sure I did the wrong thing, the thought of losing her is too much to even think about. |
Anonymous
| No problem with that, same age difference but two years younger than yours, and the younger one is more testy. We are definitely more harsher with the younger one because we know it's necessary based on her personality. All kids are different and different methods work. |
Anonymous
| In a situation like that, where she seriously could have been killed, I think a shocking/severe/swift punishment is appropriate. I bet she won't do it again! I would have done the same. |
Anonymous
| Good job, mama! Totally appropriate given the circumstances. |
Anonymous
| No judgement from me. Those are clearly extreme circumstances and she won't do that again, which is exactly what you'd hope for out of a punishment. |
Anonymous
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I think it’s great and more parents should do that.
- nanny, who can’t and won’t spank and the kids don’t listen |
Anonymous
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Absolutely fine. With the gravity of the situation she needs to know that is a redline never to cross again - and if spanking is the only thing to get the point across, so be it.
This is not one of those angry parents who takes out their frustration out on their kids situation, this is a learn to not test boundaries where you could be maimed situation. |
Anonymous
+1 No need to apologize in this instance. I have apologized to my kids for blowing up and yelling at them, but in this case, I don't think an apology is needed. |
Anonymous
+1 |
Anonymous
| I never spanked but would have done the same. Running out into traffic/parking lot is dangerous enough to justify IMO. |
Anonymous
I don't spank, but I totally get it for this scenario. No judgement. |
Anonymous
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Your action was the correct action to take. The spanking was accompanied by an explanation for what the child did wrong so the child knows it was not some arbitrary action out of nowhere for no reason. The child will forget the words but will not forget "I ran out in road. Got spanked. It feel bad. I not run out in road again so I not feel bad."
Textbook example of good parenting. |
Anonymous
| Good parenting right there. Other pps should learn from you. |
Anonymous
| I'm not a spanker generally, but that was totally appropriate, OP. No judgement here. |
Anonymous
Same. |