Daycare birthday party invite Q

[Anonymous]

DD goes to an inhome daycare. She's the youngest at almost 3 and the rest of the kids are 7-8, there is a 5 year old. I am having an inhome birthday party for DD and invited several of her weekend playgroup friends (who are all 3). I wasn't going to invite daycare kids because of the age differences and because I didn't want it to get too wild. Older kids run faster and play rougher. We have a bounce house coming. I feel like if I invite one kid from daycare, I'd have to invite them all (8 kids, plus parents).

Anyways, DD has been inviting everyone to her birthday party and all the other kids are talking about it. DD is obsessed with birthday parties and talks about it nonstop for months (she's very social). I'm feeling really bad about it now. Did I do this wrong and should I have invited these other kids? Also, the daycare provider was asking about it too. I indicated it was a family party with some cousins.

Would you invite older daycare kids? Should I have invited the daycare provider?

[Anonymous]

I probably wouldn't invite older kids if there was a bounce house. Maybe if it was a face painting or balloon making I would have.

If you are inviting older 7 year old kids for a 3 year old's party, be prepared for the older kids to hog up the space and not let the younger ones on the bounce house.

[Anonymous]

Inviting one kid does not mean you have to invite them all. I doubt the parents of the older kids would care either way if they were invited to a 3-year-old's birthday party. I certainly wouldn't.

Now if she's talking about it, maybe you have to suck it up and invite. Maybe you can have someone supervising the moonbounce and have separate bounce times for the littles and the big kids?

[Anonymous]

No, you're fine. Don't sweat it!

Don't invite 7-8 year old's to your 3YO's birthday - it won't end well.

[Anonymous]

Nah, no need. If asked, just say DD made a mistake, it's a small party, mostly family. People don't expect a 2 year old to stick to the same etiquette rules as older people. Don't sweat it.

[Anonymous]

OP here. Ok you all are making me feel better. Part of it is that she keeps talking about her "friends" coming, but she doesn't always mean friends her age. She considers her aunt/uncles/my friends to be her friends.

I know that the older kids often have slumber parties together and DD has never been invited to any of their parties or houses.

[Anonymous]

At that age they invite and disinvite their daycare friends on an hourly bases. They talk about their birthday 6-8 months of the year.

Do they do a small celebration at daycare? If they do, then all of her daycare friends that day will be at the 'party' there.

[Anonymous]

I agree with PP. Do a small celebration at the daycare - maybe get some cupcakes for all the kids (with an extra special cupcake for your DD) and ask her to blow the candle while the kids sing. That would be her daycare party. Then have your in home party with her playgroup friends and family

[Anonymous]

What are7-8 year olds in daycare??

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:DD goes to an inhome daycare. She's the youngest at almost 3 and the rest of the kids are 7-8, there is a 5 year old. I am having an inhome birthday party for DD and invited several of her weekend playgroup friends (who are all 3). I wasn't going to invite daycare kids because of the age differences and because I didn't want it to get too wild. Older kids run faster and play rougher. We have a bounce house coming. I feel like if I invite one kid from daycare, I'd have to invite them all (8 kids, plus parents).

Anyways, DD has been inviting everyone to her birthday party and all the other kids are talking about it. DD is obsessed with birthday parties and talks about it nonstop for months (she's very social). I'm feeling really bad about it now. Did I do this wrong and should I have invited these other kids? Also, the daycare provider was asking about it too. I indicated it was a family party with some cousins.

Would you invite older daycare kids? Should I have invited the daycare provider?

Maybe I'm out of line and off topic here, but if you're worried about one day...aren't you worried about the fact she's at daycare every single day with much older kids?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What are7-8 year olds in daycare??

My guess is they go after school or in summer.

But either way, I would not want my child to be the only 3 year old with a bunch of school-age kids.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What are7-8 year olds in daycare??

OP here. Well it's summer, so she does a summer camp. During the school year they go before and after elementary school to her house. It's right across from the school. They've all been there since they were newborns.

[Anonymous]

I would not invite 7-8 year olds to a three year olds party.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:DD goes to an inhome daycare. She's the youngest at almost 3 and the rest of the kids are 7-8, there is a 5 year old. I am having an inhome birthday party for DD and invited several of her weekend playgroup friends (who are all 3). I wasn't going to invite daycare kids because of the age differences and because I didn't want it to get too wild. Older kids run faster and play rougher. We have a bounce house coming. I feel like if I invite one kid from daycare, I'd have to invite them all (8 kids, plus parents).

Anyways, DD has been inviting everyone to her birthday party and all the other kids are talking about it. DD is obsessed with birthday parties and talks about it nonstop for months (she's very social). I'm feeling really bad about it now. Did I do this wrong and should I have invited these other kids? Also, the daycare provider was asking about it too. I indicated it was a family party with some cousins.

Would you invite older daycare kids? Should I have invited the daycare provider?

Maybe I'm out of line and off topic here, but if you're worried about one day...aren't you worried about the fact she's at daycare every single day with much older kids?

OP here. No way. I LOVE that there are older kids. It's more of a family experience than a typical daycare with babies all the same age. DD's vocabulary is really impressive too and I think it's from being around older kids. There were kids DD's age, but they moved away. I believe in September there will be new kids closer to her age.

I'm more worried about my house being over run by kids. It's hard because each kid comes with a parent or two.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:DD goes to an inhome daycare. She's the youngest at almost 3 and the rest of the kids are 7-8, there is a 5 year old. I am having an inhome birthday party for DD and invited several of her weekend playgroup friends (who are all 3). I wasn't going to invite daycare kids because of the age differences and because I didn't want it to get too wild. Older kids run faster and play rougher. We have a bounce house coming. I feel like if I invite one kid from daycare, I'd have to invite them all (8 kids, plus parents).

Anyways, DD has been inviting everyone to her birthday party and all the other kids are talking about it. DD is obsessed with birthday parties and talks about it nonstop for months (she's very social). I'm feeling really bad about it now. Did I do this wrong and should I have invited these other kids? Also, the daycare provider was asking about it too. I indicated it was a family party with some cousins.

Would you invite older daycare kids? Should I have invited the daycare provider?

Maybe I'm out of line and off topic here, but if you're worried about one day...aren't you worried about the fact she's at daycare every single day with much older kids?

OP here. No way. I LOVE that there are older kids. It's more of a family experience than a typical daycare with babies all the same age. DD's vocabulary is really impressive too and I think it's from being around older kids. There were kids DD's age, but they moved away. I believe in September there will be new kids closer to her age.

I'm more worried about my house being over run by kids. It's hard because each kid comes with a parent or two.

Yep, a family experience down to bullying the younger sibling and teaching him/her swear words. Impressive, indeed.