Daycare birthday party invite Q

[Anonymous]

No need to invite

[Anonymous]

Can you bring cupcakes and balloons to daycare? Our daycare provider had a little party at pickup time for every child's birthday. She asked parents to bring balloons and she bought cupcakes. I really, really appreciated this gesture. It definitely solved the issue of not having parties or not inviting daycare friends to parties.

And please don't just invite one or two friends - at an in home daycare, everyone hears everything. I took it super personally when I overhead snotty mom #1 talking to snotty mom #2 about how super fun her DD's birthday party was while DD and I were standing RIGHT THERE in the doorway with them. My DD was her DD's best friend at daycare! Fortunately 3 year olds don't care that much about that sort of thing and she forgot about it almost immediately.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:DD goes to an inhome daycare. She's the youngest at almost 3 and the rest of the kids are 7-8, there is a 5 year old. I am having an inhome birthday party for DD and invited several of her weekend playgroup friends (who are all 3). I wasn't going to invite daycare kids because of the age differences and because I didn't want it to get too wild. Older kids run faster and play rougher. We have a bounce house coming. I feel like if I invite one kid from daycare, I'd have to invite them all (8 kids, plus parents).

Anyways, DD has been inviting everyone to her birthday party and all the other kids are talking about it. DD is obsessed with birthday parties and talks about it nonstop for months (she's very social). I'm feeling really bad about it now. Did I do this wrong and should I have invited these other kids? Also, the daycare provider was asking about it too. I indicated it was a family party with some cousins.

Would you invite older daycare kids? Should I have invited the daycare provider?

Maybe I'm out of line and off topic here, but if you're worried about one day...aren't you worried about the fact she's at daycare every single day with much older kids?

OP here. No way. I LOVE that there are older kids. It's more of a family experience than a typical daycare with babies all the same age. DD's vocabulary is really impressive too and I think it's from being around older kids. There were kids DD's age, but they moved away. I believe in September there will be new kids closer to her age.

I'm more worried about my house being over run by kids. It's hard because each kid comes with a parent or two.

Yep, a family experience down to bullying the younger sibling and teaching him/her swear words. Impressive, indeed.

Oh yes, I'm sure the 4 and 5 year olds are teaching the toddlers how to swear and bullying them.

My DDs were both at an in home daycares and there were definite benefits to them spending time with a range of ages - both as the younger children and as the older children. My older child was very well prepared to have a younger sibling because she was around babies at daycare - there was never any jealousy or other issues that many of my friends had to deal with. I'm sure some of that was personality, but she knew how to treat and act around babies, and that helped us out immensely. And when the kids were babies, it was so sweet to see how the older kids treated them so nicely, were such good helpers to the daycare provider. It was a great experience!

[Anonymous]

PP here - OK, I somehow missed that the older kids are 7 and 8. Not sure how that works with kids being in school - are they only there for aftercare? I still wouldn't worry at all about bullying/swear words.