Help me come up with a comprehensive list of house/family/parenting duties
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Anonymous
| My partner and I are working together to divide responsibilities more evenly as I prepare to go back to work full time. Some of the household work and parenting responsibilities have become automatic so we think it would be helpful to list everything out and divide it up as possible. We have three kids ages 4-11 who are involved in a few extracurricular activities. Has anyone listed things out in this way and would you be willing to share? |
Anonymous
| I think this varies so much by family/house that I don’t know if someone could make a comprehensive list without walking through your household and asking questions. Even then, it can change with the season. |
Anonymous
| Share the list you currently have and we can add on. |
Anonymous
| I would have catagories: Kid and Household. Then break it down to daily, weekly, and annually. |
Anonymous
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School "extras" like field trips, contributions to teacher lunches, book fair, permission slips
Sick days for the kids Scheduling and calendaring: especially staying on top of school half-days, holidays, early dismissal Forms like daycare forms, doctor visit forms Scheduling/attending doctor and dentist visits; staying on top of prescriptions and household medications Registration for camps, sports Obviously indoor and outdoor chores Taxes and bills Sizing, sorting, organising, buying, donating kid clothes, shoes and swim and sports gear Planning vacations and family visits Packing for vacations/visits Prepping house for house guests Holiday and birthday prep, including presents, wrapping, mailing, cards, etc. Planning/executing kid birthday parties Organising sport carpools, play dates and other fun/social stuff for kids Checking in on older parents and family members; helping as needed |
Anonymous
OMG. Aside from mowing the lawn and taking out the trash, I do all of those things! 
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Anonymous
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Dh does all kid related things, holidays events that occur in our home, and his personal favorite, vacations.
I'm responsible for all house chores and short/long term finances. We are individually responsible for handling issues with our respective families of origin. |
Anonymous
SAme. Exactly the same over here! |
Anonymous
Time to sit down and have a conversation. First step is admitting you have a problem. |
Anonymous
This is the real place you need to focus on. All of those "seasonal" types of tasks in our household are divided by a combination of who isn't crazy busy at work and who is more skilled at the task. If you are going back to work full time, you need to address the daily/weekly chores. Some categories: Food - meal planning, grocery shopping, lunch packing, weeknight cooking, weekend cooking, kitchen cleanup, dish washing, dish putting away Kid Wrangling - morning prep, backpack unloading, homework monitoring, evening showers/tooth brushing, bedtime Cleaning - laundry, sheet/towel changing, vacuum/floors, bathroom cleaning, kitchen cleaning, decluttering Pet care Yard maintenance Your kids are old enough to take on some of the chores. Be clear about who is responsible for what with them too. |
Anonymous
| Which chores are the children doing, OP? |
Anonymous
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These are comprehensive lists of household and childcare related duties:
http://herestheplanbook.com/dividing-household-responsibilities |