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Anonymous
| So I’m living at our summer vacation house in my paradise (14 hours from home I’m DC). However, I’ve since we’re arrived in mid June, my beloved 9 yo dog has been extremely sick. So sick that my hubby paid 3x the normal price for an emergency plane tix. We thought we would be putting the dog to sleep but he rebounded and is still very sick but ok. The kicker is my grandfather (95) who lives 20 hours away is dying. His funeral will be any day now. It’s a logistical nightmare that drives my type-A personality wombats. How do you keep it all together without the support of a spouse in the house and two young kids (ages 5 and 7)? I’m crying all the time but my kids unfortunately have lost their grandfather (hubby’s dad) and understand death sometimes. |
Anonymous
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Are you able to go spend time with doggie or grandpa? Unfortunately for now you try to get through each day and be present. Focus on the present rather than “waiting around”. Actively take steps to take care of yourself - every day.
Talk your kiddos about how they’re feeling. Try to keep busy with them and their activities. |
Anonymous
| My dog is asleep in my bedroom. We visited my grandfather this spring in his nursing home and won’t be able to visit again until October (unless there’s a funeral.) I’m taking my girls to a Flamingo parade and festival (bounce houses) tomorrow. I’ll keep them terribly busy. Told them that Great Grandpa wants to eat Great Grandma’s delicious lemon meringue pie in heaven. She died 15 years ago (way before they were born). |
Anonymous
| As a 40 something, I still just cannot handle death - practicing Catholic and all. |
Anonymous
| Why don’t you just go home so you can have the support of your spouse? I’m confused. |
Anonymous
| I’m confused by these hours-measured distances. You mean by car? Why wouldn’t you fly? Take the dog and kids home and fly to grandpa’s for a short visit. Who drives 20 hours? |
Anonymous
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Perspective - you need some.
If you can't summon it yourself, seek therapy. |
Anonymous
| You have a 5- and 7-year old who can’t visit their great grandfather now, in the middle of the summer, but they will be able to in October? |
Anonymous
| Try praying for peace,calmness, and the strength to get through this. |
Anonymous
| Why don't you be with DH? I would never leave my DH for the summer. |
Anonymous
| You sound mentally unbalanced |
Anonymous
This. The ball is in your court. If you own a summer home, then you can certainly afford to fly somewhere to see your dying relative. And if you want the love and support of your spouse, then go home. |
Anonymous
| This is why wealthy SAHMs have a bad reputation. They cannot function as adults. |
Anonymous
If your dog is still sick and suffering. It is time to let go. Sorry it sucks. The logistics will work out with your grandfather. I might suggest making the plans to travel to your grandfather now even if it means arriving a few days early. If you have the money to afford this type of lifestyle, you should have care for the kids so that you can find a therapist to help you move through this period of sadness and give you ways of handling it in the future. Hugs and good luck. |
Anonymous
| Look, I’m not trying to be mean, but you need to grow up. Neither of these are unforeseen tragedies. Just deal with it. |