Are there degrees to personality disorders?

[Anonymous]

Like “a bit NPD” or “a little borderline personality disorder”?

[Anonymous]

Obviously.

All mental health exists on a spectrum, OP. At a certain threshold, psychiatrists agree to label whatever it is with a clinical diagnosis, and sometimes, since mental health symptoms are to a degree subjective, it's really hard to tell if someone has gone over the line, so psychiatrists may disagree. However just because someone is below the threshold for a diagnosis doesn't mean they don't have tendencies.

[Anonymous]

Yes, they are all a spectrum.

[Anonymous]

Even so, they're still NPD.

[Anonymous]

Thanks!

[Anonymous]

Some are worse than others, but I know or have known a couple of people with those disorders and there’s absolutely no mistaking it. It’s obvious immediately that something is very off with them, and then after just one interaction I can usually identify what it is. Then everything just gets more and more clear.

Most people do not have it, even when they’re selfish or rude or whatever. In the cases I know, it’s almost like I could write a case study about them. Right down to childhood things that likely caused it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Some are worse than others, but I know or have known a couple of people with those disorders and there’s absolutely no mistaking it. It’s obvious immediately that something is very off with them, and then after just one interaction I can usually identify what it is. Then everything just gets more and more clear.

Most people do not have it, even when they’re selfish or rude or whatever. In the cases I know, it’s almost like I could write a case study about them. Right down to childhood things that likely caused it.

Can you expand on this? I have BPD and I try so hard to appear normal...but it never seems to work out, and the vast majority of times I can instantly feel people writing me off despite my most valiant efforts to not appear "off" What is it exactly that you see, and how can I fix it?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Some are worse than others, but I know or have known a couple of people with those disorders and there’s absolutely no mistaking it. It’s obvious immediately that something is very off with them, and then after just one interaction I can usually identify what it is. Then everything just gets more and more clear.

Most people do not have it, even when they’re selfish or rude or whatever. In the cases I know, it’s almost like I could write a case study about them. Right down to childhood things that likely caused it.

Can you expand on this? I have BPD and I try so hard to appear normal...but it never seems to work out, and the vast majority of times I can instantly feel people writing me off despite my most valiant efforts to not appear "off" What is it exactly that you see, and how can I fix it?

NP. IME, BPDs show their neediness. Or, they overact to compensate. The need for attention, positive or negative. There is a facade.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Some are worse than others, but I know or have known a couple of people with those disorders and there’s absolutely no mistaking it. It’s obvious immediately that something is very off with them, and then after just one interaction I can usually identify what it is. Then everything just gets more and more clear.

Most people do not have it, even when they’re selfish or rude or whatever. In the cases I know, it’s almost like I could write a case study about them. Right down to childhood things that likely caused it.

Can you expand on this? I have BPD and I try so hard to appear normal...but it never seems to work out, and the vast majority of times I can instantly feel people writing me off despite my most valiant efforts to not appear "off" What is it exactly that you see, and how can I fix it?

NP. I’m guessing you mean bi-polar disorder and not borderline personality disorder? The former latter doesn’t usually care about others or acknowledge there is anything off about them! But enough about my mother...

I’ve had two close friends with Bipolar PD. One was a childhood friend and I was her friend as it emerged during puberty. She was so embarrassed after her first episode around me. I told her it was okay, I could tell it was not the real her and she couldn’t help it. I’ve known others but not as close friends.

People with BPD are a little (or a lot) more intense. Usually in their interests, they are unaware of how much they overshare, or their anxiousness over certain things. And love interests make them go over the top. There is also what I call the “bipolar laugh” which is a huge tip off.

I don’t know if there’s anything you could or should do to “pass.” As long as you are managing it. I think it’s better that you be you and tune out other’s reactions as much as possible. I know it’s not easy. I have a disabled daughter and trying to tune out people’s reactions is emotionally draining. And I know what it is like to have people keep you at arms length.

Having bi-polar disorder wouldn’t stop me from being your friend! As long as you aren’t drinking on top of your meds that is, because that can be scary and dangerous. I think people with bi-polar disorder are often very sweet, loyal friends, interesting, and have an incredible sense of humor. Their ability to create fun out of anything can be great for someone like me who tends to be way too serious.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Some are worse than others, but I know or have known a couple of people with those disorders and there’s absolutely no mistaking it. It’s obvious immediately that something is very off with them, and then after just one interaction I can usually identify what it is. Then everything just gets more and more clear.

Most people do not have it, even when they’re selfish or rude or whatever. In the cases I know, it’s almost like I could write a case study about them. Right down to childhood things that likely caused it.

Can you expand on this? I have BPD and I try so hard to appear normal...but it never seems to work out, and the vast majority of times I can instantly feel people writing me off despite my most valiant efforts to not appear "off" What is it exactly that you see, and how can I fix it?

NP. I’m guessing you mean bi-polar disorder and not borderline personality disorder? The former latter doesn’t usually care about others or acknowledge there is anything off about them! But enough about my mother...

I’ve had two close friends with Bipolar PD. One was a childhood friend and I was her friend as it emerged during puberty. She was so embarrassed after her first episode around me. I told her it was okay, I could tell it was not the real her and she couldn’t help it. I’ve known others but not as close friends.

People with BPD are a little (or a lot) more intense. Usually in their interests, they are unaware of how much they overshare, or their anxiousness over certain things. And love interests make them go over the top. There is also what I call the “bipolar laugh” which is a huge tip off.

I don’t know if there’s anything you could or should do to “pass.” As long as you are managing it. I think it’s better that you be you and tune out other’s reactions as much as possible. I know it’s not easy. I have a disabled daughter and trying to tune out people’s reactions is emotionally draining. And I know what it is like to have people keep you at arms length.

Having bi-polar disorder wouldn’t stop me from being your friend! As long as you aren’t drinking on top of your meds that is, because that can be scary and dangerous. I think people with bi-polar disorder are often very sweet, loyal friends, interesting, and have an incredible sense of humor. Their ability to create fun out of anything can be great for someone like me who tends to be way too serious.

What a load of drivel.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Some are worse than others, but I know or have known a couple of people with those disorders and there’s absolutely no mistaking it. It’s obvious immediately that something is very off with them, and then after just one interaction I can usually identify what it is. Then everything just gets more and more clear.

Most people do not have it, even when they’re selfish or rude or whatever. In the cases I know, it’s almost like I could write a case study about them. Right down to childhood things that likely caused it.

Can you expand on this? I have BPD and I try so hard to appear normal...but it never seems to work out, and the vast majority of times I can instantly feel people writing me off despite my most valiant efforts to not appear "off" What is it exactly that you see, and how can I fix it?

NP. I’m guessing you mean bi-polar disorder and not borderline personality disorder? The former latter doesn’t usually care about others or acknowledge there is anything off about them! But enough about my mother...

I’ve had two close friends with Bipolar PD. One was a childhood friend and I was her friend as it emerged during puberty. She was so embarrassed after her first episode around me. I told her it was okay, I could tell it was not the real her and she couldn’t help it. I’ve known others but not as close friends.

People with BPD are a little (or a lot) more intense. Usually in their interests, they are unaware of how much they overshare, or their anxiousness over certain things. And love interests make them go over the top. There is also what I call the “bipolar laugh” which is a huge tip off.

I don’t know if there’s anything you could or should do to “pass.” As long as you are managing it. I think it’s better that you be you and tune out other’s reactions as much as possible. I know it’s not easy. I have a disabled daughter and trying to tune out people’s reactions is emotionally draining. And I know what it is like to have people keep you at arms length.

Having bi-polar disorder wouldn’t stop me from being your friend! As long as you aren’t drinking on top of your meds that is, because that can be scary and dangerous. I think people with bi-polar disorder are often very sweet, loyal friends, interesting, and have an incredible sense of humor. Their ability to create fun out of anything can be great for someone like me who tends to be way too serious.

no, borderline personality disorder

[Anonymous]

What is bipolar laugh? Can you give an example?