Baby Mama -Question

[Anonymous]

If you were in a relationship with a man who had a baby mama and up until she ended her relationship with her other kids father, your boyfriend and her only spoke in regards to the kid but are now more friendly. No big deal... Even though its like daily conversations, sometimes sharing pics of their shared child.

However, friendly to the point that she asked him to buy her clothes with her money (bc he has good taste) and he suggested they go shopping, to which she suggested you come along... which he thinks will be awkward...

Is this weird? navigating a relationship when someone else has a kid can be hard enough, but does this push boundaries of some kind?

[Anonymous]

I would never date anyone with a baby mama, but yes, sounds like they are dating.

[Anonymous]

It's not totally clear to me from the OP but if it's shopping for clothes for the shared child not a big deal. If it's shopping for clothes for the baby mama then yeah it's weird.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It's not totally clear to me from the OP but if it's shopping for clothes for the shared child not a big deal. If it's shopping for clothes for the baby mama then yeah it's weird.

OP here, she wants blouses/shirts for herself, NOT for the child.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It's not totally clear to me from the OP but if it's shopping for clothes for the shared child not a big deal. If it's shopping for clothes for the baby mama then yeah it's weird.

OP here, she wants blouses/shirts for herself, NOT for the child.

Yeah that's weird.

I would just not get involved with someone who had a baby mama. Sounds like a recipe for drama!

[Anonymous]

Not okay. They had and apparently still have chemistry. The kid pics fine, the shopping steps over any conceivable boundary line for me.

[Anonymous]

No

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It's not totally clear to me from the OP but if it's shopping for clothes for the shared child not a big deal. If it's shopping for clothes for the baby mama then yeah it's weird.

OP here, she wants blouses/shirts for herself, NOT for the child.

To be very clear here, it doesn't sound like he's cheating on you with her. It sounds like he's cheating on her with you.

[Anonymous]

I think maybe she is being nosy and wants to meet you or wants to have a good relationship with you.

Wonder if Ashton Kutcher, Demi Moore, and Bruce Willis ever went shopping together?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think maybe she is being nosy and wants to meet you or wants to have a good relationship with you.

Wonder if Ashton Kutcher, Demi Moore, and Bruce Willis ever went shopping together?

OP here, she has met me and sees me on a weekly basis when we pick-up/drop off their shared child.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It's not totally clear to me from the OP but if it's shopping for clothes for the shared child not a big deal. If it's shopping for clothes for the baby mama then yeah it's weird.

OP here, she wants blouses/shirts for herself, NOT for the child.

To be very clear here, it doesn't sound like he's cheating on you with her. It sounds like he's cheating on her with you.

OP here, I get what you are saying, however they haven't been together in a over two years and she only started talking to him outside of pick-up/drop off, when she broke up with her other baby daddy.

[Anonymous]

People have different boundaries. It's a question of whether you and your boyfriend are comfortable with it and feel able to assert yourselves.

It's great that they are friendly. If he thinks it will be awkward, he should be able to say no thank you and that's that. If he wants to do it, but you don't want him to, then that's a different problem (between you two, and not really related to the ex). It doesn't matter what anyone else thinks about it, just you two.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It's not totally clear to me from the OP but if it's shopping for clothes for the shared child not a big deal. If it's shopping for clothes for the baby mama then yeah it's weird.

OP here, she wants blouses/shirts for herself, NOT for the child.

To be very clear here, it doesn't sound like he's cheating on you with her. It sounds like he's cheating on her with you.

OP here, I get what you are saying, however they haven't been together in a over two years and she only started talking to him outside of pick-up/drop off, when she broke up with her other baby daddy.

Huh? How many baby daddies are there?! lol

OP this seems like too much trouble especially if you don't have kids. If you're determined to date this guy the boundary conversation should happen before he takes her shopping for clothes. If he doesn't want you to come take that as a bad sign.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It's not totally clear to me from the OP but if it's shopping for clothes for the shared child not a big deal. If it's shopping for clothes for the baby mama then yeah it's weird.

OP here, she wants blouses/shirts for herself, NOT for the child.

To be very clear here, it doesn't sound like he's cheating on you with her. It sounds like he's cheating on her with you.

OP here, I get what you are saying, however they haven't been together in a over two years and she only started talking to him outside of pick-up/drop off, when she broke up with her other baby daddy.

Please tell me you’re a troll. If not, what is your thought on the matter OP?

Sounds dramatic, is it?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It's not totally clear to me from the OP but if it's shopping for clothes for the shared child not a big deal. If it's shopping for clothes for the baby mama then yeah it's weird.

OP here, she wants blouses/shirts for herself, NOT for the child.

To be very clear here, it doesn't sound like he's cheating on you with her. It sounds like he's cheating on her with you.

OP here, I get what you are saying, however they haven't been together in a over two years and she only started talking to him outside of pick-up/drop off, when she broke up with her other baby daddy.

Huh? How many baby daddies are there?! lol

OP this seems like too much trouble especially if you don't have kids. If you're determined to date this guy the boundary conversation should happen before he takes her shopping for clothes. If he doesn't want you to come take that as a bad sign.

There you go, I agree with all three points above.