How do you handle In-laws that keep in touch with DH/DW’s ex
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Anonymous
| My MIL lives in the same town as DH ex. I trust that my DH has no interest in being in close contact with ex-nonkids together etc. but his mother seems to make a point to talk about her to us. It’s awkward and kind of irritating. She also is very public about her connection with the ex on social media and will share my family photos with the ex. I understand they have a friendship but they way MIL brings her up to me to frequently just feels a little odd. |
Anonymous
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Next time she brings it up, I would cut it off. Something like this:
"I'm so glad that you and Carol are close, but I don't know her well, so I don't really care to hear updates on her family. Have you tried the bean dip? It's really good." But in terms of her relationship with DH's ex? Her call. None of your business. |
Anonymous
| Your DH should handle it. And by handling it, I mean he should speak up next time she starts talking about the ex with you all. |
Anonymous
| It doesn’t bother me. They share an young adult son. MIL is interested in anything about DH and her GS. Interestingly, she now asks me about my XH (her SGDs’ dad). Harmless. |
Anonymous
| It’s one thing if a child is shared with the ex, but if not it’s just the polite thing to do by keeping the conversation about exes to a minimum. |
Anonymous
| Why does your DH allow his mom to mistreat you like this? |
Anonymous
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You have a husband problem if HE doesn't stop this -- this mention by his mother of the ex wife, especially in front of you. But I'm sure he doesn't like it ever. And it's a husband problem if he doesn't force a change.
The fact that MIL likes, and even wants to see, her former daughter in law is no one's business but MIL's. She deserves to keep close with anyone she wants. |
Anonymous
Am I missing something? What do all these acronyms mean? |
Anonymous
Hahahahaha. I don’t know, but my guesses are “grandson”, “ex-husband” and “step-granddaughter”. |
Anonymous
P.s.: I LOLed because I had the same first reaction. |
Anonymous
| So don’t share your photos with her, and don’t meet her to talk. Pretty easy. |
Anonymous
They generally mean "I want to appear to be a lot more net savvy than I actually am". 
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Anonymous
This made my brain hurt! |
Anonymous
| I had to tell a family member, “She’s dead to me. If you continue to see her, I’d appreciate it if you would keep it to yourself.” |
Anonymous
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Change the subject each time she brings it up.
Don't give her any family photo's. If she is getting them via Facebook then change your settings so she doesn't have access to posts that include those photo's. Don't get your DH to say anything. It will only cause an issue. Your MIL will mention it to the ex and it will become a point of conversation. They are friends and that's ok, it's not a slight on you. However it's not ok for her to share your life with the ex, just stop all information in regards to your family and anything personal you don't want shared. |