Messed up - so bummed

[Anonymous]

So it is becoming apparent that I ovulated early this month, and we have not had any sex! It was on the calender, but DH was angry about something one night and tired the next. I thought we could get away with waiting but looks like I was wrong. I'm so bummed - this was the anniversary of conceiving DC#1, and I thought it might be our magic month. I don't have the strength to keep trying for much longer. I'm so upset right now that I'm physically sick to my stomach and can't concentrate on work.

Thanks for listening.

[Anonymous]

Uh oh! That sounds frustrating. Perhaps have a glass of wine NOW, grab DH and go at it just in case?

[Anonymous]

Yes, I think the key is AFTER ovulation! I missed last month too, because we only tried BEFORE and DURING ovulation, but not afterwards. IM so BUMMED. Go for it now, just in case! and yes, im thrilled to have a glass of wine for another 2 weeks!

[Anonymous]

Is 20:40 the OP?

OP- It is disappointing. This month, I knew that I was ovulating based on CBEFM, but DH was too tired. I told him that it was a "good" time, but he was just too exhausted, and said that the next day would probably be a good time as well. We had just come home from a long day of visiting with in-laws, and BD was the last thing on his mind.

However, are you really *positive* that you have determined your ovulation date correctly? If so, then it won't do any good to BD now. However, if there is any chance that you're wrong, then you should keep trying. Even using the CBEFM, I can see many months where I *thought* that I had ovulated, and the monitor had given me a peak, but I found out after the fact that it had been a false LH surge and the monitor had been wrong. Unfortunately, I only knew this AFTER the cycle was over, and I could tell when I O'd based on the luteal phase (which basically doesn't change for a particular person). It was very frustrating to know that I had screwed up and missed some opportunities because I had listened to the machine.

[Anonymous]

OP here. 20:40 was someone else. We did BD last night just in case. I guess this showed me how much pressure I put on myself to get pregnant in during our "magic month."

I'm not positive about ovulation. I'm just using the test sticks, and I had a light line on Day 10, so I assumed that I would have a light line for a few days and then I'd get my surge. But on Days 11 and 12, I had nothing, which makes me think that I surged on Day 9, or maybe later on Day 10. Or it could be a false surge, or that the sticks were open too long (the container has been open almost 30 days, but they are supposed to be good for 30 days). We usually start to BD on Day 9, but had guests in town so put it off . . . . I guess I'll know when I get my period what happened. Sigh.

Thanks for the support, everyone.

[Anonymous]

OP here. Well, my period was 3 1/2 days late this month. I have no idea if that means that I ovulated really late (and there was a false surge), I didn't ovulate at all, or had a chemical. I had a lot of cramping for the week prior to AF arriving, so I was feeling very hopeful that I actually, finally could be pregnant. Sigh - I don't know how much longer I can do this.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. Well, my period was 3 1/2 days late this month. I have no idea if that means that I ovulated really late (and there was a false surge), I didn't ovulate at all, or had a chemical. I had a lot of cramping for the week prior to AF arriving, so I was feeling very hopeful that I actually, finally could be pregnant. Sigh - I don't know how much longer I can do this.

I'm sorry. Try not to beat yourself up! It is a crap shoot and just remember, you are not alone!