TWW is so awful...
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Anonymous
| ...that I'm wondering the stress of it is too much to continue TTC. Just want to do normal life without being aware of every twinge etc. I have a chronic illness with symptoms similar to early pregnancy, and it drives me nuts not to know every month. Exhausting to be confused two weeks out of four. I know this is secondary to the end goal, but is anyone else overwhelmed by living in the two week wait? Is it enough to put you off the TTC process, or to take a break? |
Anonymous
| How long have you TTC? |
Anonymous
| Embarassing, but only one cycle. AF today. I tried not to symptom spot but had nausea and the whole works so it was hard not to get on the merry go round. I don't think I have the emotional energy for this TWW game for months on end. Have regular cycles; got AF the day I expected and no known fertilty problems with DC #1. Plenty of BD at the right time, but it's not a sure thing. I just feel like I just returned from a funeral reception. Exhausted by the process as under lots of other stressors and not knowing what is happening with my body is one more thing. |
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You're right, the TWW can be tough.
But, I say this gently, you've only been at this for one month. There might be a long road ahead of you. My suggestion would be to try to practice a form of cognitive behavioral therapy where you think about positive things and not focus energy on negative things. You'll drive yourself into an anxiety and depression spiral if you spend two weeks a month totally paralyzed. Would you be able to visit with a therapist to discuss your feelings? For what it's worth, it took me 8 months to conceive #2 after an easy time conceiving #1. I was able to cope by focusing my energy on the family I have, thinking about the positive things of my child being an only, knowing that I have the option to explore fertility treatment if we decide to go that route, and to learn not to expect a positive pregnancy test in any particular month. Focusing on the positives in my life actually helped me get to a place where I forgot I was in the TWW until my period came. (Or, the month I did get pregnant, until I realized my period had NOT arrived and I took a test and it was positive!) |
Anonymous
| Thank you for your kindness. I would love to be able to get to that place! I have big physical challenges and pregnancy will make them harder, so I was hoping I would only have to leap into the unknown once, rather than gearing myself up for it every single month. Choosing this mostly as #2 is so important to beloved DH, without knowing exactly what it will cost me physically. Doctors gave the OK but am expecting it to tougher than the first time pre-diagnosis, which was pretty painful. |
Anonymous
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I agree, OP. The TWW sucks.
I am sorry about your physical difficulties and I wish you the best! That is great that the doctors are hopeful! I also wish this board was more active! I HATE "Baby center", but there's no one to talk to here! It would be nice to have virtual company. We are TTC our third and I'm so over it already, and it's only been a couple months. My first took 9 months to conceive and it was SO hard. The second was conceived once...literally one time that month. So, doctor is not concerned even though I'm 36. I do not temp, because it stresses me out. I use OPKs, and we "try"...but it sucks. I want to be more casual about it, but I also know we have to actively try. But, I dunno...the stress can't be good. PP is right. My first was conceived when I stopped caring, or counting on it. I took the test when I realized I was FIVE DAYS LATE. I wish you peace! |
Anonymous
| Suggest going on The Bump app - found a great birth month group there that I've been with for over a year. It's great. |
Anonymous
thanks. is it better than baby center? And, only the app or the website too? |
Anonymous
| I’m coming to the end of two weeks and just wanted to commiserate. I feel like I’m over analyzing every little thing...headache, cramp, exhaustion. Heck my teeth hurt and I’m like, maybe I’m pregnant! We shall see! |
Anonymous
| pp 13:13, did you find out? And thanks, pp 20:07. Wishing you lots of baby dust! It is hard to actively try and then somehow switch off the what ifs for two weeks for sanity. |
Anonymous
Not yet. I tested today which is still too soon (period due Saturday), but I am too impatient especially when I have a bunch of strips handy. I have a feeling it will be a no. 
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Anonymous
Another no for me. |
Anonymous
Sorry to hear that. Hoping for good news next cycle! 
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Anonymous
| Two week wait for me as well. I'm sick as a dog, exhausted and yet no BFP. I don't get it. |