It's Wednesday madness.

[Anonymous]

My sister just called me in tears because at daycare drop off something happened!

My two-year-old niece loves her provider. She talks about how nice and kind the provider is all the time. I noticed my sister doesn't encourage the conversation and change the subject asap.
Well, this morning drop offset my sister over. She cried and told me that her dd told her she wishes the provider was her mom.

I have a ten-year-old dd and I stayed home with mine until she went to school. I do not know how to help my sister. I told her kids said a lot of things and just ignore and move on. She hangs up on me.

Everyone, please share your daycare drama and how to help my sister deal with this.

[Anonymous]

You both sound overly dramatic, but here goes.

Call her back or text her. Apologize and say that you know that comment from her daughter must have stung. Tell her she's a great mom. Offer to do something fun with them this weekend.

[Anonymous]

Also: Your choice to stay home has NOTHING to do with your sister's choice to work and use daycare. Watch your own comments, I bet you judge her and she knows it. If you didn't, you wouldn't have brought it up here.

[Anonymous]

As a SAMH, lemme say this - staying at home didn't make me unsympathetic to the issues that working mom face. Your sister was having a hard time and venting to you. We all know, kids say things, but that doesn't mean it won't sting. Listen to her and just be there.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Also: Your choice to stay home has NOTHING to do with your sister's choice to work and use daycare. Watch your own comments, I bet you judge her and she knows it. If you didn't, you wouldn't have brought it up here.

Your post is loaded with judgement about the choice your sister is making compared to the choices you made with your own child. Be supportive and remind your sister that she's a great Mom and that kids say all kinds of things they do not mean. Your niece is so lucky to have your sister as her Mom and she loves her very much. Repeat over and over.

[Anonymous]

I am a SAHM but my dc sometimes pulls out the ‘I want an other mom’ or ‘I wish x would be my mom’ when I limit screen time or prepare a veggie she doesn’t like. I think is the kid’s way to express anger or frustration. I try not to take it personally even if it stings.
Not an uncommon situation at all.
https://www.empoweringparents.com/article/i-hate-you-mom-i-wish-you-were-dead-when-kids-say-hurtful-things/

[Anonymous]

This is a normal thing for kids to say. It just means they love that person and their best example of loving someone is how they feel about their mom. Which is actually a huge compliment for mom.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This is a normal thing for kids to say. It just means they love that person and their best example of loving someone is how they feel about their mom. Which is actually a huge compliment for mom.

Excellent point,

Kids that well care and love show others the same love. Parents should feel good not threaten.

[Anonymous]

I would find this a little painful but also comforting that my kid feels so secure and loved at day care. A lot of us working moms feel worried and insecure about being away from our kids and knowing they like and trust their caregivers takes a weight off.

[Anonymous]

Tell your sister she's a great mom and that she did an excellent job finding a terrific caretaker for her kid.

[Anonymous]

Tell me your daycare drama? Is this just a troll (with bad grammar) trying to stir the DCUM pot?

[Anonymous]

Tell your sister that she is lucky to have a provider that her 2 year old daughter loves like a mother. She is a great mom for finding someone like that. Then tell her she needs to understand that 2 YO's say crazy silly things and she can't get all hormonal about them.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Tell your sister that she is lucky to have a provider that her 2 year old daughter loves like a mother. She is a great mom for finding someone like that. Then tell her she needs to understand that 2 YO's say crazy silly things and she can't get all hormonal about them.

Exactly this.

And try to not judge, OP. Because you are.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Tell me your daycare drama? Is this just a troll (with bad grammar) trying to stir the DCUM pot?

No,
You are the troll. she came to ask for different responses to share with her sister. I hate the troll police.

[Anonymous]

I stay home and my kid still prefers his teacher (she is super awesome). I’m grateful he has someone like that teaching him.