Everyone thinks I could do better than my husband
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Anonymous
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I settled. My in laws are awful emotionally abusive people. It has killed my self esteem. My husband takes their side. My friends and family think I could do better.
My marriage is ok and I’m happy about 40% of the time. I don’t know if I can even do better so why would I mess up my stability? |
Anonymous
| If no kids GET OUT! |
Anonymous
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I can’t imagine living my life with a goal of 40% happiness in a relationship.
Life’s too short, op. Go find your happinesses |
Anonymous
| Why did you Mary him? |
Anonymous
Friends and family sometime just nod and say things that sound supportive but when the sh#t hits the fan...they will not be there for you. |
Anonymous
| 40% is not worth it. Wouldn't you get a new job if you were only 40% happy? Get out. Bette to be single and happy than weighed down and drained by a no supportive family. Would they be there (including dh) if something bad happens? |
Anonymous
| Get comfortable with the idea that you can be happy on your own, and then you don’t have to worry about whether you can do better than your husband, the question becomes simply whether you are happier with your husband than you would be on your own. |
Anonymous
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Do not get pregnant or have any kids - you will be tied to him for life. Or at least about 20 years.
How long have you been married? Does he know or suspect how you feel? |
Anonymous
| I have been married for 12 years and have 3 kids. I would say I am happy with my DH 20% of the time. |
Anonymous
Why did you have kids with him? |
Anonymous
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Stop thinking in terms of "doing better". Think in terms of cost-benefit analysis. What are you prepared to sacrifice in terms of dignity/content, to get financial stability/social recognition? And if you got out, would you be happier living without a boyfriend/spouse? |
Anonymous
Think you are talking about me. |
Anonymous
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If you can do better, why did you marry the loser?!? |
Anonymous
| Majority of wives think they could do better. |
Anonymous
| Everybody else thought my husband could do better. Meh. |