How to prevent being sucked in again
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Anonymous
| Cut it off with the guy, now I need the strength to stick to my guns. He wants to be “just friends” - understanding that’s not an option for me - and continues reaching out. It’s *really* hard not to respond, and get sucked in by the flattery. Help!!! |
Anonymous
| Delete his number, mark his email address as spam so is automatically trashed, block him on social media, if needed change your own phone number or move to a different place. |
Anonymous
| OP, you know you want to go back, like a drug...it felt sooo good...go for it |
Anonymous
| Tell him he wasn’t big enough for you. That basically guarantees you’ll never hear from him again. |
Anonymous
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It's a big huge ridiculous red flag that you have told him that the best thing for YOU is no contact and he IGNORING THAT.
There is nothing flattering about that. It's rude and arrogant at best, down right mean and manipulative at worst. So re-frame every "compliment" as an aggressive breech of your boundaries. Because that's exactly what it is. You are too good for this trash guy. |
Anonymous
| Block him where possible and don’t respond. Throw every message into the trash. If you can’t take those simple steps then deep down you do want to go back. |
Anonymous
You're flattered that he's good with sleeping with you because you're so wonderful but not wonderful enough to have a relationship with?! Get some standards - learn to treat yourself better and so will others. |
Anonymous
Agree. It really isn’t hard if you REALLY never want to see him again. |
Anonymous
| As has been said many times “the best way to get over someone is to quickly get under someone!” |
Anonymous
In my single days I did that a couple of times and it was very effective especially if the new guy was great in bed. I finally gave it up when I met my now husband and found him to be very “fulfilling” in many ways. If OP’s ex was really great in bed that could lure her back because many guys aren’t. |
Anonymous
| Do anything that brings you joy in order to distract from this guy. It could be going out with friends, working out, taking a class, anything. Meanwhile hard or soft block so his messages don’t get through. Agree with others that it’s not flattering that he’s staying in touch; it’s manipulative and needy. |
Anonymous
Yep, this works. If you insult a man's ability to please a woman, you can be guaranteed that he will not contact you again. It's sad but true. It is a man's Achilles heel. |
Anonymous
| Block his number. If you’ve told him not to contact you, it’s not mean to do. |
Anonymous
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Just know that this is more about you than him. If you knew your value, this wouldn’t be tempting. His attention is still more valuable to you than getting what you deserve. Trust and believe that once he finds what he’s looking for, he will have no problem cutting you off.
-someone who has been there and done that |
Anonymous
| Tell his wife. |