I feel bad now. Was this rude of me?

[Anonymous]

My 6 yo daughter was invited to a birthday party after school today. I asked when they would like me to pick her up, so I assumed that I could just drop her off and leave. When we arrived, the mother asked me to come in and get comfortable. My child was the only other child at the party and obviously, I was the only other adult there. I had my baby with me and had plans to do some grocery shopping but I stayed for about 20 minutes and asked if it was ok if I left my daughter with her for the party. She seemed sad that I was leaving. I feel bad now. Am I a horrible person?

[Anonymous]

Well, it sounds like it was more of a playdate where the mom wanted to get to know you and not a birthday party. What cues did you get that it was a party?

To leave once it's clear it's not a drop-off opportunity is indeed a bit rude. Nothing to be done about it now though.

It's not a huge deal.

[Anonymous]

Wait so it was a birthday party with your daughter as the only attendee? I thought drop off parties started later- around 8?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Well, it sounds like it was more of a playdate where the mom wanted to get to know you and not a birthday party. What cues did you get that it was a party?

To leave once it's clear it's not a drop-off opportunity is indeed a bit rude. Nothing to be done about it now though.

It's not a huge deal.

No, my daughter brought home a birthday party invitation. There were decorations everywhere. It just seems like everyone else was either late or didn't show.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Well, it sounds like it was more of a playdate where the mom wanted to get to know you and not a birthday party. What cues did you get that it was a party?

To leave once it's clear it's not a drop-off opportunity is indeed a bit rude. Nothing to be done about it now though.

It's not a huge deal.

No, my daughter brought home a birthday party invitation. There were decorations everywhere. It just seems like everyone else was either late or didn't show.

Oh, super awkward.

[Anonymous]

Who has a birthday party after school on a Tuesday? The other parents were probably so confused .

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Who has a birthday party after school on a Tuesday? The other parents were probably so confused .

OP here. I know! I thought it was weird too but their daughter came to my daughter's party so we wanted to return the favor. It's until 7:30 too.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Well, it sounds like it was more of a playdate where the mom wanted to get to know you and not a birthday party. What cues did you get that it was a party?

To leave once it's clear it's not a drop-off opportunity is indeed a bit rude. Nothing to be done about it now though.

It's not a huge deal.

No, my daughter brought home a birthday party invitation. There were decorations everywhere. It just seems like everyone else was either late or didn't show.

Oh, super awkward.

Lol, it was!

[Anonymous]

That is so weird. I don't think you are a horrible person.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Wait so it was a birthday party with your daughter as the only attendee? I thought drop off parties started later- around 8?

No. Drop off starts in K, and some even drop off when the kid is turning 5.

[Anonymous]

I don’t think you’re horrible at all. I think you’re very nice to actually consider the other person‘s feelings. I feel really bad for the birthday girl and mom – if it were me I might invite them over for lunch and a playdate one weekend.

[Anonymous]

You're not horrible. The mother was weird and didn't communicate what she wanted very well.

[Anonymous]

Awkward. But you're not terrible. It might have been best (kinder) to stick around though, since that's what the host preferred, and just suck it up.

[Anonymous]

I think you should have sucked it up and stayed, especially since no one else was there. It was definitely an awkward situation though.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think you should have sucked it up and stayed, especially since no one else was there. It was definitely an awkward situation though.

No, that would have been awkward. Sick of these forced “mom” friendships hey because our kids play. I’m not your friend. I have a job, kids, a husband, family, and my own friends.