When did your kids stop making Mother’s Day gifts/cards?

[Anonymous]

My 12 and 10 yo DDs signed the card that DH got for me. And that was only when he asked if they had anything and they said no, he let them sign the card. I know they’re getting older and won’t be making little crafts every year but I was a little surprised when they didn’t do anything, especially when they made all these cute cards for my birthday just a few months ago.
I know I’m being emotional but it’s mother’s day and it’s like they forgot. When did that start happening with others’ kids?

[Anonymous]

That kinda sucks. I hope your DH circles back and let’s them know it’s not ok. Ideally he should have checked with them yesterday, to see what they had planned. It’s a busy time of year and kids forget things, but parenting means steering them back on track. They should make or buy a card, at the least, to show they care. He can ask how they’d feel if you didn’t have anything for their birthday or other event that focuses on them.

[Anonymous]

I thought the crafts were all generally made ad school as part of teacher initiated gifts?

So at 12 it would make sense that there weren’t any Mother’s Day crafts.

[Anonymous]

Growing up, my dad made sure that my sister and I did something for mother's day. We didn't have our own money or transportation to buy a card or flowers, so that's on the dad to organize. We could make a card, bring her Cheerios in bed which I'm sure she loved ... also, we knew what day Mother's Day was because mom would have made plans with one or both grandmas (aka, modeling how to treat mothers).

Anyway, yes your DH should talk to them, but you can gently point out that they couldn't have done much without his help so he needs to be more active next time.

Sorry you feel down.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Growing up, my dad made sure that my sister and I did something for mother's day. We didn't have our own money or transportation to buy a card or flowers, so that's on the dad to organize. We could make a card, bring her Cheerios in bed which I'm sure she loved ... also, we knew what day Mother's Day was because mom would have made plans with one or both grandmas (aka, modeling how to treat mothers).

Anyway, yes your DH should talk to them, but you can gently point out that they couldn't have done much without his help so he needs to be more active next time.

Sorry you feel down.

17:54 here. Sorry, but I’m not sure I agree with how much this is the DH’s fault. OP’s girls are old enough to figure something out. My DH grumbles that Mother’s Day is a “Hallmark holiday,” so any celebrating is driven by my 10-year-old. This morning she got up early and did the following while I was sleeping: She dug out a bunch of balloons from my party-decoration stash and inflated them and taped them all over the house. She made me a little booklet of really great drawings, and made me a card. She also did a few chores that I normally handle. Then she made me coffee and toast, which she brought to me in bed. All of this while my DH slept.

So I agree that OP’s DH has a role, but OP’s daughters could have done things on their own to recognize the day. They certainly could have made a quick card or planned to make breakfast or whatever. Sounds like they forgot, and their dad should have reminded them.

[Anonymous]

My 17yo and 15 yo still make me cards.

[Anonymous]

My 14 yr old DS made me a card

[Anonymous]

Neither child have ever made cards except if it was a teacher led activity in school. I’m not into cards anyway and would not expect DH to buy one. My son offered to make coffee and breakfast when I woke up. He gave me a few basic choices and ended up making eggs. He did the dishes afterwards. Better than a card.

[Anonymous]

My 12yo DS made me a card, but I suspect his 9yo sister was the inspiration.

[Anonymous]

I think it depends! Each kid is different. Mine love making mother’s day cards. They are 11 and 8.

[Anonymous]

My 13 and 11 year old made cards and signed one separately that my husband bought for them as well. Do you have a them make cards for your husband? Do they write thank you notes? Did they call their grandma’s today and will they call their grandpas on Father’s Day? I think it’s all wrapped up in how you raise them.

[Anonymous]

Mine is not crafty. Dad takes child and buys card and flowers.

[Anonymous]

This is OP. This is very unlike them. They love making cards, always spend a ton of time making them, without any “reminders” from us. This is why this is so surprising, even after DH asked about their cards they just agreed to sign the one he got and there was no mention of “oh I forgot.”

[Anonymous]

OP again. They ended up giving me their cards right before going to bed. They didn’t have time to finish earlier.
Thanks everyone, have a good night!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP again. They ended up giving me their cards right before going to bed. They didn’t have time to finish earlier.
Thanks everyone, have a good night!

Aww, that’s nice! Glad you reported back and glad it worked out.