celebrating birthday before actual day

[Anonymous]

Culturally, I never do this. It is bad luck though I know that is a silly superstition. But problem is, if I don't celebrate immediaely before (2 days), i have to wait almost a month before celebrating with friends my toddlers birthday. of course we will also celebrate at home the day of.
What would you do? Ideas on way to celebrate but not actually cut the cake/blow candles?

[Anonymous]

Are you Brazilian? The other half of my family is Brazilian and they won’t celebrate two days before because of superstitions.

I would celebrate two days before and not let superstitions guide my decisions.

[Anonymous]

Why are you stressing about this? Celebrate 2 days before if that's what works for your schedule - no big deal.

Heck we went to a birthday party recently for a kid who's birthday was almost 2 months before. The parents are just bad planners. It was fine and the kid had their special day.

[Anonymous]

I'm Russian and it's also bad luck and we never do it. Family tradition at this point.
This year due to dhs weekend work schedule we had to delay the friend bday party for our 3 year old by 3 weeks. We did dinner and cake and grandparents on the day of her actual birthday (weekday) and then the party with friends 3 weeks later. She didn't care and loved having 2 cakes to blow out.

[Anonymous]

PP- that is how i feel, i'm not russian but similar. Maybe I have everyone over and we have cake but he blows out the candle n his real birthdya?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:PP- that is how i feel, i'm not russian but similar. Maybe I have everyone over and we have cake but he blows out the candle n his real birthdya?

You could do that. But for a toddler the best part of the bday is the blowing out of the candle (at least for mine).

[Anonymous]

I would have it.

Being afraid of doing it early ... is pure superstition, it sounds like. What are you all afraid is going to happen?

I often prefer before the bday rather than after (unless I can get it right on within a day or two).

[Anonymous]

Its bad luck in our culture as well. BUT if it needs to be done and is more practical I would definitely celebrate it before. My reason for that is to try to not pass on my own superstitions onto my kid. Its a conscious effort and I sometimes have to push myself to do it, but I try to lead by example and put logic before insecurities.

[Anonymous]

I think either way is fine. If you feel ok doing it early— go for it. But having a party a month late is also fine. My kid’s party was 3-4 weeks after her birthday this year because of planning logistics (she got cake with family on her actual birthday).

[Anonymous]

never before