Is it considered abuse if estranged husband cuts off your funds?

[Anonymous]

My friend’s husband wants a divorce. My friend does not work. They have no kids. She was completely dependent on him financially. They shared a car and she had credit cards but he has cancelled them. She literally has no money.

They are living in the same house awkwardly. He told her to get a lawyer but she can’t afford to pay for the retainer. She is basically trapped in the house with no car and no money. There is food.

[Anonymous]

No

[Anonymous]

Sounds like she needs to get a job.

[Anonymous]

She should call local women's centers and see if any can connect her with a pro bono legal program. She should also be looking for a job ASAP.

Does she not have access to the bank accounts at all? That's a bad situation.

This is why I will never understand people who choose to stay at home, particularly when there are no kids involved. What a precarious place to leave yourself in if the breadwinner wants out or, god forbid, is injured or killed.

[Anonymous]

Is this the one been married for a couple of years, moved? We already told you she needs a job.

[Anonymous]

She should go to a lawyer and explain the situation. The lawyer can charge fees to the husband in this circumstance.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My friend’s husband wants a divorce. My friend does not work. They have no kids. She was completely dependent on him financially. They shared a car and she had credit cards but he has cancelled them. She literally has no money.

They are living in the same house awkwardly. He told her to get a lawyer but she can’t afford to pay for the retainer. She is basically trapped in the house with no car and no money. There is food.

YOU AGAIN? This is at least your third post on the exact same subject. Please refer back to all of your previous posts.

[Anonymous]

She can start selling items in the house to raise ready cash.

[Anonymous]

OP, either this “friend” is really you, or you are way too personally invested in your friend’s drama, especially considering her disinterest in solving her own problems.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, either this “friend” is really you, or you are way too personally invested in your friend’s drama, especially considering her disinterest in solving her own problems.

I just realized I think she may be asking me for money.

[Anonymous]

Is she not on joint bank accounts? If so, she needs to withdrawal half of whatever is in them and open an account in her name. She can open a credit card in her name only.

[Anonymous]

She also needs to get a job.

[Anonymous]

Tell her to go to legal aid or the court and ask for help. That's really crappy. I'd open a new credit card up in my name with him joint. Tell her NOT to move out.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:She can start selling items in the house to raise ready cash.

THis is a good idea- facebook and craiglist for quick.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Tell her to go to legal aid or the court and ask for help. That's really crappy. I'd open a new credit card up in my name with him joint. Tell her NOT to move out.

Isn’t that fraud? Can she open one and have him be liable?

My friend has very poor credit. That’s why she has no credit cards under her name.