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Can DC#1 stay overnight at hospital with me?
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Anonymous
| Do any of the area hospitals allow both DH & DC#1 to stay overnight after I deliver DC#2? I will be having the baby next summer; thought I'd ask here before starting my own research. |
Anonymous
| No. |
Anonymous
| I doubt it, but would wonder more why you would want DC#1 to stay overnight. I had the same feelings - as my DD1 was a co-sleeper and I worried about her way too much. But, I would think that the recovery may be too much for them - you may or may not be able to get out of bed that much - you'll have a newborn in your room ( or not ), but you'll be up a lot during the night and disrupting their sleep too. It makes more sense to leave them at home if you can. |
Anonymous
| PP -- how did you prepare your cosleeper for you to not be there for a couple nights? We cosleep too, and that's why I'm worried about her. |
Anonymous
| No way - ps logistically postpartum rooms barely fit you, DH and the baby let alone another kid |
Anonymous
What are your plans post-baby? Will you all cosleep? |
Anonymous
| OP here. She sleeps in a crib next to us that has the side down, so it's flush with our bed. She sleeps there part of the night and in our bed for part of the night. I'm hoping to transition her to the crib by the time next summer gets here. Maybe my husband can go home and do the bedtime routine with her. It's stressful. I know cosleepers might not understand. Right now she also nurses to sleep, and I don't know how that will ever stop! Maybe she'll wean during the pregnancy. |
Anonymous
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Mine did wean during the pregnancy. As she got older we moved her to a mattress on the floor at her request for "my OWN bed", then to her own room. She did sleep with us a few times after the baby, we did mom, baby, dad, preschooler. All this stuff really does change as they get older, the drive to be independent is strong. We found that if accomodated what seemed to be her needs instead of rebuffing them that she moved on really quickly.
I've coslept and done extended nursing with 2 kids and if you are not there they get that they can't nurse. No hospital is going to allow you to cosleep with a child who is not a patient. The reclining chairs in most hospital rooms are not going to hold 2. What about something like a Birth Center where you can go home within a few hours? |
Anonymous
| OP again. I was induced at 38 weeks with #1 and ended up having a c-section, so I can't go to a birthing center. I'm going to try to VBAC, and hopefully then I will only be in the hospital 2 nights (instead of 3 or 4). |
Anonymous
| Staying overnight? I'm delivering in a little over a week and I'd be grateful if my DC#1 was even allowed to step foot in the hospital for the four days I'll be there to meet his new sibling. Sorry, as you can probably tell I'm still a little bummed about the whole H1N1 situation. I assume the restrictions will be lifted by the time you deliver in summer - but I guess you never know. |
Anonymous
| If you're not due until the summer, then I think you will be surprised at how much can change in a few short months. I do highly recommend working to get someone else to put her down somehow, even if you continue to nurse her to sleep when you're around. You never know when you may have an emergency and have to leave her overnight and it's best if she has some advanced preparation so she's more comfortable when you're not around her. |
Anonymous
| Inova Alexandria will not allow this. |
Anonymous
You could still birth with a midwife at the hospital, who would not only be more helpful with achieving your VBAC, but who would also be extremely amenable to you leaving within 12-24 hours, assuming an uncomplicated vaginal delivery. |
Anonymous
| DH yes, but not DC. |
Anonymous
| I felt this way with my first and I just had my husband spend both nights at home. DS#1 was thrilled to have me home and his nights went smoothly. I bet she'll do fine at home with Daddy. |