How to arrive home early respectfully and lovingly

[Anonymous]

I have a 6 month old baby and have just started hosting a nanny share. Sometimes I get home from work early, before my nanny finishes work. I generally disappear upstairs straightaway to do chores or finish off projects. I do this because I don't want to disrupt my nanny's day and be hovering over her. However I feel I'm holding back from greeting my baby as enthusiastically as I want to - showering her with kisses, etc. So much mom guilt!

How do you greet your babies when you get home from work? Particularly if the nanny hasn't finished work?

[Anonymous]

Um? Just say hi to your kid. Ask the nanny about her day and then go upstairs and change or whatever you do. If your nanny gets annoyed s/he has a problem. Unless the baby is sleeping feel free to say hello.

[Anonymous]

I have worked happily with WFHP as well as parents that pop in and out. Personally, I absolutely do not mind the parents coming in and participating in our activity or play with their child for as long as they would like, assuming we do not need to be doing something different we need to be doing. When they leave, they say, “mommy needs to go to work now, but I’ll see you again at ___!” It’s not always super easy, but life with kids is not always super easy. So, I would absolutely not mind you taking some time with your child when you get home. It would be nice if you sent her a text letting her know that you are on your way.

[Anonymous]

I think it is hard when they are little still to pop in and out. Suggest instead working from a coffee shop nearby until you wrap up things.

[Anonymous]

I’m a SAHM and my daughter is a toddler, so different situation. But wanted to say that sometimes my husband comes home but still needs to finish a few mins of work or do something else, but as soon as he walks in, my daughter knows he’s home and throws a tantrum bc daddy came in and then left again. I wish he would just sneak in, do what he needs to do, and THEN say hi to our daughter.

[Anonymous]

Wait, so OP you're afraid of interrupting your nanny? I'd think you'd be doing the opposite by getting a child off her hands.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Wait, so OP you're afraid of interrupting your nanny? I'd think you'd be doing the opposite by getting a child off her hands.

Not if she ends up going upstairs solo. It’s actually annoying. Just do what you need to do upstairs and then get the baby. I don’t see why she wouldn’t give you kisses then..

[Anonymous]

I am a nanny and I encourage “interruptions” IF AND ONLY IF you are going to stay. It isn’t fair to your child to come in and then leave again. Come in, give hugs and kisses, and join in our play until it is time for you to take over. Don’t make your child excited to see you only to walk out again. One goodbye a day is enough.