10 and 7 year olds, New marriage, possible baby

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[Post New]04/09/2019 22:21
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Anonymous
I'm divorced with 2 elementary age kids. I'm getting married this year and we have discussed having a baby. We are a same sex couple so obviously this will take some planning, not to mention we will be 39/40 and obviously age makes this more difficult. I'm curious for those of you who have started over with a baby in a second marriage with older kids. How is it, what are the positives and negatives. TIA
[Post New]04/09/2019 22:27
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Anonymous
Seems like too much for your older two. I wouldn't do it. They already have a lot going on to cope with.
[Post New]04/09/2019 22:29
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Anonymous
I wouldn't add anything to an already-complex equation.
[Post New]04/09/2019 22:30
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Anonymous
They have enough to deal with.
[Post New]04/09/2019 22:34
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Anonymous
OP here....my kids are doing great. Their parents are a lot more healthy and happy currently then they were 3 years ago still together. Which makes my children's lives much more stable. So thanks for your 3 comments but you didn't really answer any of my questions
[Post New]04/09/2019 22:34
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Anonymous
Agree that the kids already have more than enough to deal with.
[Post New]04/09/2019 22:35
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Anonymous
What’s your custody schedule like for the elementary kids?
[Post New]04/09/2019 22:38
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Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:What’s your custody schedule like for the elementary kids?


50/50 4/3/4/3 nights alternating. Except when their Father travels for work about every other month and they are with me 7-10 days straight
[Post New]04/09/2019 22:41
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Anonymous
Get married and wait at least a year before going for a baby. How do you know this marriage will last?
[Post New]04/09/2019 22:47
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Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:Get married and wait at least a year before going for a baby. How do you know this marriage will last?


Because it's the best/healthiest relationship I have ever been in in my life. And I'm not someone to take relationships lightly. I never thought I'd get divorced, but it happened after many years of abuse. We were already planning to wait a year or so after marriage. And I'm not 100 percent sure we will, I'm just looking for been there done that parents
[Post New]04/09/2019 22:51
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Anonymous
Maybe ask Jeff to move this to the parenting - special concerns board for perhaps more compassionate responses
[Post New]04/09/2019 22:54
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Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:Maybe ask Jeff to move this to the parenting - special concerns board for perhaps more compassionate responses


Thank you, I was wondering which thread to post it, Also I think most responses are from the same poster
[Post New]04/09/2019 23:03
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Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Maybe ask Jeff to move this to the parenting - special concerns board for perhaps more compassionate responses


Thank you, I was wondering which thread to post it, Also I think most responses are from the same poster


I'm not sure how to ask Jeff to move it, will he just see this?
[Post New]04/09/2019 23:07
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Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:Get married and wait at least a year before going for a baby. How do you know this marriage will last?


She can’t wait too long due to her age. How do we know how long any marriage will last?
[Post New]04/09/2019 23:09
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Anonymous
Just make sure you earn enough money to support 3 kids.
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