Hypothetical: widowed and remarriage

[Anonymous]

Hypothetically: If you're married now, and your spouse were to die relatively young, would you want to remarry? Why or why not?

[Anonymous]

If I have kids already and don't want more... no.


Also... I have a friend in this situation and my H $$ should go to the children not helping support some dude that took his place. Prenup please.

[Anonymous]

No, I cannot. Husband is retired military and I'd lose my health insurance and his pension he worked hard for to provide for us.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If I have kids already and don't want more... no.


Also... I have a friend in this situation and my H $$ should go to the children not helping support some dude that took his place. Prenup please.

This is widow not divorce.

[Anonymous]

I have talked about this with close girlfriends who are happily married and we all agree that we probably wouldn’t remarry. No one wants to start all over with a new man, compromise on how to run the household, mingle finances, deal with ILs, etc. Our focus for the first widowed years would be grieving, adjusting to our lives without DH, and figuring out what we wanted to do for the rest of our lives. We enjoy sex and companionship so there would be male friendship but not marriage.

[Anonymous]

I dunno. I think it's an impossible thing to know. I think it would take a very long time for me to consider it though.

[Anonymous]

Hell to the no. I’d like a partner for sex and fun but don’t want to live with anyone again. Woman here.

[Anonymous]

I daydream about my spouse dying, and frankly my current marriage doesn't make me excited about remarrying.

[Anonymous]

I probably would but not until my children are off to college. I have no desire to try to merge two families or even bring another man into the home while my children are young. I know I'd be very concerned about money but I do know my parents would be there for us. Companionship would be an issue but I'm sure there is a solution.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Hell to the no. I’d like a partner for sex and fun but don’t want to live with anyone again. Woman here.

Man here same thing. Spend time with me children find someone to be FWB with that's it

[Anonymous]

Nope. I have kids and don't think it would be fair to them. Plus being married is very, very hard and I would not want to go through the effort again.

[Anonymous]

No. I don’t see the benefit. I have three kids, and do not want more. By that point they would have had their dad, and do not need another.

Close friends, someone to travel with or to be intimate with — yes. But a marriage certificate isn’t needed. One and done for me (and I’m happily married).

[Anonymous]

No. I don’t like being married all that much, I can support myself and my kids on my own, and I wouldn’t want to deal with a blended family.

[Anonymous]

I am a widow and not planning to remarry until after 60 (if ever) so I can get his SS.

[Anonymous]

No. Partly due to the amount of work that goes into a marriage, and partly due to petty reasons such as I do not want to deal with another man's clutter. I daydream about H being gone so I could declutter the hell out my house and shed the weight of all the physical objects that belong to him.

My MIL was widowed at 50 and didn't remarry until 70. It worked out great for her: she's no longer lonely and her second H has a lot more money, so financially her standard of living just improved exponentially.