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Anonymous
| OMG i totally lost my sh*t this morning and I'm feeling like a failure as a mom. Just the usual getting ready for school antics, kids not listening, goofing off, combined with the little one keeping me up since 5am this morning, and I'm extra frazzled for time this week, and being on my time of the month - I exploded. I spanked the 4yo times with a towel (2nd time in my life) - while he laughed at me, which made me madder, and I locked him in his room. Yelled for like 15 minutes straight, locked the little one in his room. And here I am trying to get my sanity back. Help me. I don't want to be this mom. I want to be so much better. And I really do try, but sometimes I just lose it and I feel like it's a runaway train and I can't control it sometimes. |
Anonymous
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Kids gonna kid. This too shall pass.
If you’re feeling that frazzled, especially if it’s norm around your period, it may be helpful to get on an antidepressant, oral contraceptive, or something to stabilize your mood. |
Anonymous
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It’s ok. Do better tomorrow. Don’t spank. This is hard.
Last night my 4 yo was testing me and I just ignored him while he whined. I focused on cleaning the house up after dinner and tuned him out. At the end of about 15 min, I had rotated laundry, done dishes, and picked up toys. The cleaned up house made me feel better. |
Anonymous
OP, I felt like I was getting pretty insane and then I got a mirena IUD. It has helped SO MUCH with the crazy rage I used to feel that was tied to my cycle. I still get upset sometimes, but I don't scream at my small children anymore. I have much more control. But also, yes small kids are really hard. Think about how you can get ahead of it all next time. You are not a failure. Deep breaths and start fresh this afternoon. |
Anonymous
| Thanks all. Deep breath. I just finished a 10 min mindfulness meditation and I feel like I reset. Before I was swimming in negative thoughts and I've just kinda let it all go, and decided to move forward with my day and do better. We are all doing our best with what we have. I'm going to try to knock two things off to-do list in the next hour so that hopefully by the time I pick up my son, I'll feel less stressed. Have a great day everyone |
Anonymous
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Sometimes I feel like I need to tattoo "this too shall pass" on my arm so that I don't get stuck in negativity when things are tough.
Hang in there OP. |
Anonymous
| Hang in there, I do that sometimes too, I exercise and do yoga at least 4 time s a week, other than that I will lose it! |
Anonymous
So true. I had an extra-miserable morning with my 6 yo, and wanted to throw myself off the nearest bridge. Having a hard time not letting it ruin my day. Will follow the suggestion to try meditation for a reset. |
Anonymous
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I told my mom about a day like this not too long ago. She told me that she had days like that too, and she always felt so bad for yelling at us all of the time.
I actually have no memory of her yelling at us. I mean, I don't think she was perfect in every way, but I don't remember her ever yelling at us or feeling scared of her. I actually think these moments have a bigger impact on us as moms than they do on the kids. Your son was probably totally fine by the time you got him to school. |
Anonymous
| My kid refused to take a Rx last night that doesn't come in liquid and I lost it. Left the room. I was so grateful in that moment for a calm patient DH. |
Anonymous
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Hang in there. I've had days like that too. Most of us have.
I found it helpful to apologize to the kids. After I'm calm, I'll tell them, "I'm sorry I got so mad. I didn't mean to yell so much. I was feeling very frustrated but I shouldn't have lost control. I'll try to do better." I've found that modeling this means the kids are getting better at apologizing too, after they've been little jerks. |