Is this weird?

[Anonymous]

We scheduled a babysitter for three year old son tonight; she’s mid-30s and finishing a Masters and highly recommended. She sat once before and was nice if a little formal, no biggie. DS woke up with a 103 fever so I texted the sitter to cancel tonight - dinner was for DH’s friends birthday so he can go. It’s been two hours and I haven’t heard from sitter but I was wondering, am I somehow ride for canceling? I wouldn’t think a sitter would sit for a relatively new client with a kid with high fever, am I wrong? We have had nearby family babysit every time before last.

[Anonymous]

Did you offer to pay her fee? With a last minute cancel that is an appropriate thing to do.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Did you offer to pay her fee? With a last minute cancel that is an appropriate thing to do.

+1 You gotta pay her something. Her plan for the evening was to watch your kid.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Did you offer to pay her fee? With a last minute cancel that is an appropriate thing to do.

This.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Did you offer to pay her fee? With a last minute cancel that is an appropriate thing to do.

I didn’t. It’s out of ignorance. I’ll text again but this was new territory - not using family - and she knows it and I wish she’d help me navigate this and not opt for silence. Thanks.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Did you offer to pay her fee? With a last minute cancel that is an appropriate thing to do.

I didn’t. It’s out of ignorance. I’ll text again but this was new territory - not using family - and she knows it and I wish she’d help me navigate this and not opt for silence. Thanks.

OP, don't blame the sitter.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Did you offer to pay her fee? With a last minute cancel that is an appropriate thing to do.

I didn’t. It’s out of ignorance. I’ll text again but this was new territory - not using family - and she knows it and I wish she’d help me navigate this and not opt for silence. Thanks.

OP, don't blame the sitter.

I didn’t know. It’s why I asked here, and my focus wasn’t there because he’s pretty sick. Its not easy when you don’t know.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Did you offer to pay her fee? With a last minute cancel that is an appropriate thing to do.

I didn’t. It’s out of ignorance. I’ll text again but this was new territory - not using family - and she knows it and I wish she’d help me navigate this and not opt for silence. Thanks.

You thought it was all right to cancel at last minute and not pay her? This is entitlement rather than ignorance.

[Anonymous]

You are forgiven, OP. Offer to pay her and take care of your kid. Now you know.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Did you offer to pay her fee? With a last minute cancel that is an appropriate thing to do.

I didn’t. It’s out of ignorance. I’ll text again but this was new territory - not using family - and she knows it and I wish she’d help me navigate this and not opt for silence. Thanks.

You thought it was all right to cancel at last minute and not pay her? This is entitlement rather than ignorance.

No,’it isn’t. Thank you to the last poster, it’s settled.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Did you offer to pay her fee? With a last minute cancel that is an appropriate thing to do.

I didn’t. It’s out of ignorance. I’ll text again but this was new territory - not using family - and she knows it and I wish she’d help me navigate this and not opt for silence. Thanks.

I know what you mean, OP. It would be nice if she would just say “no problem. I still charge xyz fee for a less than 24 hour cancellation” or something of the sort.
It’s rare that sitters and nannies are upfront like this though.

[Anonymous]

Maybe she's not glued to her phone and hasn't seen it yet

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Did you offer to pay her fee? With a last minute cancel that is an appropriate thing to do.

I didn’t. It’s out of ignorance. I’ll text again but this was new territory - not using family - and she knows it and I wish she’d help me navigate this and not opt for silence. Thanks.

I know what you mean, OP. It would be nice if she would just say “no problem. I still charge xyz fee for a less than 24 hour cancellation” or something of the sort.
It’s rare that sitters and nannies are upfront like this though.

Yeah, I don’t want her to feel pressure. I texted her an offer to pay her fee and an apology. We never went over this before.

[Anonymous]

OP, you texted her at 7:45am when presumably she was just getting up or getting ready for the day? I'd expect her to reply with a "hope he feels betters soon" or something but not necessarily right away. If you don't get a reply by lunchtime than just call or text again to confirm she got your message.