weekend family time

[Anonymous]

Moms-I need some help with planning weekends. First do you always plan the weekend activity? Also, when is this confirmed with your spouse? Do you know before say Wed what your doing or do you wake up on Sat and decide then? TIA, it's driving me crazy. (2 young kids (4&6))

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Moms-I need some help with planning weekends. First do you always plan the weekend activity? Also, when is this confirmed with your spouse? Do you know before say Wed what your doing or do you wake up on Sat and decide then? TIA, it's driving me crazy. (2 young kids (4&6))

What exactly is driving you crazy? Finding things to do, or are you the only one planning things?

[Anonymous]

We have a few standing weekend sports activities, and around Wednesday or Thursday DH and I start to talk about what we need to do over the weekend and what we'd like to do. We formulate a very loose plan and then firm things up the night before or morning of. It works best for us to go into the weekend having an idea of what's going on but then maintain flexibility as long as possible. Sometimes kids get sick, or something else comes up, or we end up needing some down time at home after a long work week. Obviously when other people are involved or the outing requires tickets or reservations we plan in advance and stick to the schedule.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We have a few standing weekend sports activities, and around Wednesday or Thursday DH and I start to talk about what we need to do over the weekend and what we'd like to do. We formulate a very loose plan and then firm things up the night before or morning of. It works best for us to go into the weekend having an idea of what's going on but then maintain flexibility as long as possible. Sometimes kids get sick, or something else comes up, or we end up needing some down time at home after a long work week. Obviously when other people are involved or the outing requires tickets or reservations we plan in advance and stick to the schedule.

This is us too. We usually talk about a few ideas or loose plans. Sometimes this leads to making firm plans with someone. But other than that we stay pretty flexible.

[Anonymous]

We don't normally plan ahead, unless there are special events that we have to RSVP to. The biggest goal for weekends is to relax and recharge. If the weather is good, we always try to do an outing. It seems to work for us to be the fly-by-the-seat-of-our-pants type.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Moms-I need some help with planning weekends. First do you always plan the weekend activity? Also, when is this confirmed with your spouse? Do you know before say Wed what your doing or do you wake up on Sat and decide then? TIA, it's driving me crazy. (2 young kids (4&6))

You're overthinking this a lot. DH and I both plan. We know that on Saturday mornings we'll feed the kids a little something to tide them over, then go to the farmer's market, then go to brunch, then do errands and/or meet up with friends or do birthday parties. We get the kids back home by 4 or 5 or 6, get them dinner, and then we shower and go out with friends at night. Sundays could be sailing or exploring a neighborhood, or going hiking. Sometimes things are planned, sometimes they're not.

You speak as if it's on you to decide. Why isn't it on your spouse?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Moms-I need some help with planning weekends. First do you always plan the weekend activity? Also, when is this confirmed with your spouse? Do you know before say Wed what your doing or do you wake up on Sat and decide then? TIA, it's driving me crazy. (2 young kids (4&6))

It depends.

If we have something concrete going on, we know in advance. If we don't have anything going on, we talk about what we want to do together and then do that thing at the appointed time. Last weekend we decided to skip DD's swim class (pre-scheduled) and instead go to the aquarium in Baltimore.

[Anonymous]

I start checking for the weekend activities on Thursday (Kidfriendly DC, newspaper, FB, etc.). Then I formulate a loose idea of the schedule for each day.

It was always 100% on me. DH just goes along for the ride.

[Anonymous]

We plan the Sunday before. Discuss at dinner and then make a decision close to it based on weather and energy levels.

[Anonymous]

When I had 2 kids close to your kids’ ages, I would normally pick the activity and put it on the calendar. Sunday was no plan day.

Now my kids are 7 and 9 and we also have a toddler. Older kids often have activities and sports and would pick a play date over a family day at the museum.

The weekend family time is not normally a full family outing anymore. One parent home w napping toddler.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I start checking for the weekend activities on Thursday (Kidfriendly DC, newspaper, FB, etc.). Then I formulate a loose idea of the schedule for each day.

It was always 100% on me. DH just goes along for the ride.

+1. This is our family too. There are some things that we know ahead of time and we would plan for that. These days, with birthday parties and a Saturday swim lesson, our schedule is quite fixed.

[Anonymous]

We have one standing activity on Sat morning (right now).

We talk about who is waking up on Sat and Sun with DS on Thurs, allowing the other to sleep in. Sometimes the one waking up with him takes him out (I usually take him to breakfast and Target. DH usually takes him to a playground, indoor or outdoor) The afternoon is still nap time. And afterwards we just hang around the house.

There are weekends where we going to some activity/event together. So one wakes up super early with DS. The other sleeps for an hour or 2, then get up in enough time to get ready and get to the activity.

I (DW) usually figure out the special activity or event to attend.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Moms-I need some help with planning weekends. First do you always plan the weekend activity? Also, when is this confirmed with your spouse? Do you know before say Wed what your doing or do you wake up on Sat and decide then? TIA, it's driving me crazy. (2 young kids (4&6))

What exactly is driving you crazy? Finding things to do, or are you the only one planning things?

If your DH isn’t planning, he’s probably okay with staying home and not having plans. Not every moment has to be scheduled. Down time is valuable too.