When you were single . . . traveling/going places

[Anonymous]

Did you travel, go to events etc and were you excited to do it or was it an "obligation." IDK if it's about being mid 30s and single or if it's a sign of depression (never had it before) but I find myself considering going to an event or something that I would like (think concert, long weekend away etc.). And within a few hrs I go from -- yeah that's cool, I've always wanted to go, it'll be a good break from the routine TO what's the point/it's just me/it won't be fun/everyone else will be there with spouses/bf/gf/families/it's not like I need the downtime or alone time since I have it ALL the time. And I'm not talking about something like a wedding where everyone arrives with dates. I'm thinking like turning a 1 day conference in Vegas into a 3 day weekend - where I rationally know that 99.9% of people go to conferences w/o a spouse and nothing wrong w adding a day when you've flown 5+ hrs someplace and it's Vegas -- there's enough freaky things that no one is going to be looking at me going -- oooohhh a 35 yr old woman walking around by herself, the heresy.

Anyone else think like this?

[Anonymous]

I loved traveling when I was single. I loved exploring new places, new cultures, eating food I could only point at because I didn’t speak the language.

I still love to travel solo. It’s so much easier than going with my family or even just DH.

[Anonymous]

I love to travel so never feel like I’m going through the motions but most of the time I find other people to do things with. I love my own schedule so much and being able to do what I want when I want that it’s actually challenging for me to be in a relationship with someone. They have to entice me more than my own selfish whims.

For solo travel, there are several Facebook goes devoted to female travelers and solo female travelers that are pretty empowering. I’m hit or miss with solo travel. I’d rather have someone with me (male or female) but also live alone time and not having to compromise with anyone. I guess being single has spoiled me and made me selfish.

[Anonymous]

Early in my career while single I loved to travel but I didn't want to do it alone. A few times I traveled with a guy friend who wasn't a BF and it just made it easy. We'd be FWB-ish on these trips which was a bit crazy but we were on vacation. Now I love to travel with my DH. I'm just not good traveling alone.

[Anonymous]

I don’t travel alone, but often have married (or other single) gfs meet me after a conference if it is in a cool place or if near a friend will go visit them after. Also travel with single and married gfs abroad and in the US. But yes, there are certain times when I would rather just stay home than feel like the lame single lady.

[Anonymous]

I've travelled a lot in the US and Europe since I was a teenager.

[Anonymous]

Don’t be Fraid to travel alone and have a one night stand for once. You’ve earned it !

[Anonymous]

I kinda like travelling alone, especially if it's just for a few days. Who cares if someone sees you and has some sort of judgment? Chances are they are thinking about their own life and problems, not you.

[Anonymous]

The ability to travel by myself is one thing I miss from my single days. I loved being able to do exactly what I wanted.

[Anonymous]

Guess what, single girl? When you are married with kids you will DO ANYTHING to extend a work trip or spend an extra day or two alone when it is possible. You will not give a sh!t if anyone judges that you are by yourself. Some may even judge you more for "abandoning" your family. I have a work trip coming up to Miami and my husband wants to meet me there with the two kids because it will be "fun"... sigh... I wish they wouldn't. I wish I could have a day JUST ONE DAY alone by the pool, maybe get a mani pedi.... oh, the thought of it....

You are still young with no major family obligations, take advantage of it! Your future self will be SO grateful (although on the other hand if you feel like resting or a city doesn't interest you, don't feel obligated! That is part of freedom.)

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Guess what, single girl? When you are married with kids you will DO ANYTHING to extend a work trip or spend an extra day or two alone when it is possible. You will not give a sh!t if anyone judges that you are by yourself. Some may even judge you more for "abandoning" your family. I have a work trip coming up to Miami and my husband wants to meet me there with the two kids because it will be "fun"... sigh... I wish they wouldn't. I wish I could have a day JUST ONE DAY alone by the pool, maybe get a mani pedi.... oh, the thought of it....

You are still young with no major family obligations, take advantage of it! Your future self will be SO grateful (although on the other hand if you feel like resting or a city doesn't interest you, don't feel obligated! That is part of freedom.)

Although PS this is mostly relevant advice for all cities except Vegas. Vegas is gross and I think everyone, single or married, should try and get the hell out of that crap hole as soon as meetings are over.

I think the key is you need to stop thinking about what others may think about it and decide what YOU would enjoy.

[Anonymous]

oooohhh a 35 yr old woman walking around by herself, the heresy

Nobody cares. Single women pop up everywhere.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Did you travel, go to events etc and were you excited to do it or was it an "obligation." IDK if it's about being mid 30s and single or if it's a sign of depression (never had it before) but I find myself considering going to an event or something that I would like (think concert, long weekend away etc.). And within a few hrs I go from -- yeah that's cool, I've always wanted to go, it'll be a good break from the routine TO what's the point/it's just me/it won't be fun/everyone else will be there with spouses/bf/gf/families/it's not like I need the downtime or alone time since I have it ALL the time. And I'm not talking about something like a wedding where everyone arrives with dates. I'm thinking like turning a 1 day conference in Vegas into a 3 day weekend - where I rationally know that 99.9% of people go to conferences w/o a spouse and nothing wrong w adding a day when you've flown 5+ hrs someplace and it's Vegas -- there's enough freaky things that no one is going to be looking at me going -- oooohhh a 35 yr old woman walking around by herself, the heresy.

Anyone else think like this?

Yikes, get a grip.

[Anonymous]

Currently single and travelling alone. Love it!!

[Anonymous]

No because how would they know you are single? You just happen to be alone at that moment. In fact, perhaps you might meet your mister (or sister, whichever floats your boat) somebody while out living life.