Looking for love - advice needed!

[Anonymous]

I've been divorced about 3 years, I have sole custody of my three kids and I'm 52. I've dated a bit, had a great FWB relationship for a few months, and have dipped my toe into OLD.

My kids are teenagers, the oldest is in college. I swear I look young, I'm in good shape, have great friends, I'm decently pretty, smart, and have a job I like. I realized recently that I am ready to meet someone, and ultimately would like to be in a long-term relationship (marriage?). I love having a partner, I love having a family. I also love sex, adult conversation, and the mutual support of being in a loving relationship.

So how do I put that into a dating profile? And what are the best apps? Hard no on EHarmony, and although I met some nice guys on Match a couple of years ago, I'm lukewarm about it. Bumble? Tinder?

I enjoy dating, and sex, but again, ultimately want to meet someone. I don't want to imply in my profile that I expect insta-husband/partner, I want to date, with an eye towards a relationship that knocks my socks off. And no, I will not write "looking for a partner in crime" in my profile!!!

So what say you DCUM? (and please, be kind)

[Anonymous]

I helped my divorced friend write one a few years ago. Somewhere in your profile I would state "looking for a long term relationship". Have nice full body photos of yourself that are recent, in conservative outfits. No bikinis shots, lol. Yes some women do that, or most of their photos are from the club.

Basically state your interests, and what you're looking for. Don't say you like "sex" like you stated above. Otherwise don't over share. My friend had a nice profile, but still ended up meeting some creeps A few tried to sleep with her on the 2nd or 3rd date. When she wouldn't they moved on. Unfortunately there are a lot of men that aren't looking for anything outside of the bedroom, but will state otherwise. Make it clear you're looking for a relationship first. Talk to them on the phone a few times before the coffee date. Face time etc. Have fun on the dates and take it slow. There really is no rush to find that "one".

[Goodtime]

Anonymous wrote:I've been divorced about 3 years, I have sole custody of my three kids and I'm 52. I've dated a bit, had a great FWB relationship for a few months, and have dipped my toe into OLD.

My kids are teenagers, the oldest is in college. I swear I look young, I'm in good shape, have great friends, I'm decently pretty, smart, and have a job I like. I realized recently that I am ready to meet someone, and ultimately would like to be in a long-term relationship (marriage?). I love having a partner, I love having a family. I also love sex, adult conversation, and the mutual support of being in a loving relationship.

So how do I put that into a dating profile? And what are the best apps? Hard no on EHarmony, and although I met some nice guys on Match a couple of years ago, I'm lukewarm about it. Bumble? Tinder?

I enjoy dating, and sex, but again, ultimately want to meet someone. I don't want to imply in my profile that I expect insta-husband/partner, I want to date, with an eye towards a relationship that knocks my socks off. And no, I will not write "looking for a partner in crime" in my profile!!!

So what say you DCUM? (and please, be kind)

I say you should enjoy your time being single and have a good time. Don’t be afraid to post everything stated above on your profile. If someone sees it in your profile, they’ll know exactly what you’re looking for.

[Anonymous]

OP, have you hit menopause yet?